Is it normal that i always have to be the one to ask my friends to hang out?

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My friends never call/text me to hang out, I always have to extend myself and ask them. I just feel like I am the only one that makes an effort to maintain the friendship and I wish I could see some effort on their part. It also feels really good to be invited places. Finally, I decided that I am going to stop asking and let them come to me. It's been awhile and guess who I haven't heard from? My friends. I know they go places because I hear them talk about it. I also have let them know that it upsets me and things will get better for about a month, but things always go back to the way they were. Is this normal or am I too sensitive?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    everything about yr story is fine except for letting them know yr upset..i wouldn't do that if it was me, i would either ask to be involved in their plans or ignore them and go my own way

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  • Knight_Riot
    12 years ago

    Aye im in the same boat, I constantly have to call my friends to kick it. If its friends youve had for a long time then id say its normal, they might just be bonding with another member of the pack for a lil bit so it might not be personal, and hey dont ever feel bad for wanting to be a part of things its human nature. And sometimes its not a bad thing to try and involve urself ya know. If ur a good friend b a friend and hey theres 6 billion people on this bitch, sometimes you gota look at people as people and strip the titles of "friend" or "family" to see who they really are as a person... No worries friend you'll be fine...

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  • datultrad
    12 years ago

    Laziness, afraid of interupting..

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  • Daryl_Lyrad
    12 years ago

    Well at least your friends bother to keep you in the dark, my friends talk about going out in front of me and didn't ask me to go with them.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    haha i just realized this happens to me!! bahahaha! wtf?

    i don't even really see it though. My friends and I are kinda into different stuff so I don't really get bothered by it.

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  • blksheep
    12 years ago

    happens to me ALL the time!! i'm never invited to anything but i invite other ppl to do stuff all the time

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  • lisac1919
    12 years ago

    i have the same type of friends!
    it gets very annoying and we got into huge fights because of it. in my case i think it was cause they were busy with school, but im still bitter about it though...

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  • Chibi_Ranger
    12 years ago

    It's.. not exactly normal. Or to be specific, it's not pleasant (duh).

    Your friends are probably the less proactive type. You're usually the leading one in the crew, amirite? The "let's do it!" member. (Chuckle.) They may be shy. Can't be helped!

    Possibilities (some good some bad, brace yourself ahead):
    1. Shy crewmates.
    2. Clueless of where you'd like to hangout.
    3. Lazy tards.
    4. They're implying they don't wanna' have you tag along.
    5. Busy with other things like study/work/relationship-dramas/tv/whatever else.

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  • GMAN
    12 years ago

    It's not like they are ignoring you. If you start inviting them to cool places they will probably return the favor. Establishing some kind of activity to do routinely can help a lot also. Whether it be going to the gym w/ a friend watching a sports game or just getting high/drunk.

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    i have the same shit, ppl suck, that it i say we kill ppl. ROARRRRRRRR XD

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