Is it normal that i always go for musicians?

Just about every guy I've dated has played an instrument. The one who didn't played Rock Band. I'm not the groupie type, and I don't consciously go for musicians - it just happens. And it's kinda of beyond my comfort zone to be in a relationship with them because I'm basically musically illiterate. I'm usually so uncomfortable at their bands practices and don't know what to do with myself and when they want to have a conversation about music I can't offer much insight. I know so little about bands, so I usually can't even answer questions about what music I prefer.

I just listen to whatever I like and don't usually explore the depths of a single band. I have many songs that I enjoy, but they range all across the genre spectrum. The only thing I want to know more about when it comes to these songs is the meaning of their lyrics, and that's usually as far as my research goes.

Furthermore, I'm quite self conscious about my music choice. I don't necessarily think I have bad taste, but sharing music I like can feel so personal.

Despite how uncomfortable I can be with this aspect of these relationships, I can't really imagine being attracted to someone who does not make the music. So, Is this a normal pairing?

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87% Normal
Based on 15 votes (13 yes)
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  • thegypsysailor

    I can't see why you think you are any different from any other 'groupie'. You sound like every single one I've ever met.
    "No, really, I'm not like those girls, I'm different." Yeah, OK, if you say so. Not that there's anything wrong with being a groupie. They definitely have their place in the scheme of things.

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    • Well it's not like I chase after them. We're mutually drawn together.

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      • thegypsysailor

        If you weren't where the musicians were, I don't think there would be too much 'drawing'.

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        • At school? Internet? Friends' houses? I don't think so.

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  • harddrystickysocks

    You and every other girl in the universe.

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    • Is it just that there are so many guys that play music?

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  • Koda

    Don't feel bad not being able to share, so many people are music taste nazis. They're usually the ones who like music for a shallow reason such as it makes them feel cool/eclectic/unique/intelligent/bad-ass/pumped or like they're part of an in-group.

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  • daydreamer394

    I deemed it normal until your dispassionate manner regarding music. That doesn't make sense.

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    • Don't get me wrong, I love music. I'm just not an expert and I guess I don't "get it" in the same way musicians do. I feel the music rather than hearing it and what I like depends more on my mood than the artist's talent. I can like something one day and then hear the same thing a few weeks later and it sounds completely different. Music is more about atmosphere to me.

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  • VinnyB

    I's nice to have common interests, so I can get how you would want to know more about something your partner is passionate about. But I don't think you need to know a lot about music to be with a musician, any more than you need to know a lot about the law to be with a lawyer.

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    • True, likewise most of them didn't know much about fine arts, my specialty.

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      • Murun

        I'm a musician and have always been attracted to artist girls, so there you go. It's quite normal for creative types to be drawn together, I think.

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