Is it normal that i always cheat on boyfriends, no matter how much i like them?

I know it's wrong, I don't need to be told that because I always end up feeling bad. It doesn't matter who the guy is, how much I like them, how long we've been dating, I just can't avoid temptation. Sometimes it'll be a drunken hookup, which are situations I can avoid, but other times it'll be a date with another guy I find attractive in which I convince myself nothing will happen. I always seem to cut ties off with the guy I cheated with, but it's as if I can't avoid the process of making myself feel guilty. I don't know if this is just because I'm only 18 and young and immature and want to much or if I'm just a shitty person who will never maintain a stable relationship or marriage because I'm a fuck up. I just want to remain faithful to someone, especially since I leave for college soon and I don't want to cheat on guys I end up dating at college because it'll be even easier. I just can't seem to go without hooking up with another guy while in a relationship.

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Comments ( 31 )
  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

    Maybe an alternative lifestyle is better suited to you. Such as an open relationship, or swinging.

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    • That's what I was going to suggest. Find a guy who does the same thing and doesn't care.

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  • Parky_Parker

    Don't be that person. You need to nip this in the bud while you are young. You don't want this destructive behavior following you into your 20s, 30s, and the rest of your life. If you literally can't stop yourself from cheating, stay single and get therapy until you can get it under control.

    Cheaters are their own worst enemy.

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    • runnergirl13

      Thank you for not having some rude/awful reply. I really appreciate it and you're 100% right and that's my goal, to quit such a terrible habit when young. Thanks again.

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      • Parky_Parker

        You're welcome. The fact that you know and admit that you have a problem is the first step. Good luck to you :)

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  • dom180

    You've got to realise that you cannot have both. You can't have a steady partner and the enjoy the constant positive reinforcement of dates and sex with other people. It's not acceptable or condonable.

    Maybe you find it hard to say no to people. So practice saying no. Practice rejecting people. After doing it a few times, it becomes easy not scary. It's empowering to assert your boundaries; it's not a burden.

    If you genuinely want to control your behaviour but just can't - and if you don't know why you can't control it - I would recommend seeing a therapist. Compulsive, destructive behaviour is not normal, and seeing a therapist may help with it. Maybe this problem will get better as you mature, but I wouldn't take that chance. Until you get this problem solved, I think you should avoid all relationships, dates and casual sex. You might find that being single does you good.

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    • runnergirl13

      Thanks! I actually really appreciate the genuine advice. It means a lot, and your words and advice will be taken into serious consideration as I practice saying no.

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      • dom180

        Commitment to solving your own problems is admirable, so I hope you follow through.

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    • Couman

      Who says you can't have both? Plenty of people have steady but non-exclusive relationships. The important thing of course is to be honest about it.

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      • dom180

        This is true, I didn't factor in non-monogamous relationships. I think there are good and bad reasons to have non-monogamous relationships, though. I think compulsive cheating in monogamous relationships is a bad reason, because it's better to reduce compulsive behaviour itself (treating the cause) than to adapt your circumstances and allow the compulsive behaviour to continue (treating the symptoms). But hey, that's just my own personal outlook.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt

    I glad no one has slated you for this, because you clearly have a problem. Or, do you really have a problem? Many people these days, like me, don't believe in marriage or long term serious relationships. It's archaic. Like others have suggested, have you considered taking part in open relationships and such?
    It all depends on what YOU truly want. Do you want a relationship and stay faithful within it? Because then we do have a problem. Do you want to be single so you can enjoy being who you want to with without commitment? Do you want to try open relationships?
    Most importantly, you're 18. You are way too young to even be thinking about marriage and serious relationships. It's 2014; marriage and serious relationships isn't everyone's priority and dreams anymore. I know personally, I would take a successful career over being anyones wife anyday. And trust me, you're 18, things will calm down in the next couple of years. When I was 18, I was bonking all over the place like a cheeky little naughty rabbit, didn't matter if I was in a relationship or not. But now, I can sustain faithful relationships. You grow up, experience new things, probably have a change in the way you see the world and what you believed to be, and you change as a person.

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    • runnergirl13

      This really resonates with me. Thanks. I think i just need to grow up and see what i want.

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  • Tommythecat.

    I've always been the same, everytime I'd be like this is the last time but then.....

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    • runnergirl13

      Yeah exactly, and you feel awful when it never is 'the last time'

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      • Tommythecat.

        Yup

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  • Johnnytherat

    is that you jessica? hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha *dies alittle inside*

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  • forever_anon

    At your age, it's normal to be tempted and to have crushes on other people while in a relationship. You're young, and your hormones want you to sow your wild oats. But if you feel like you can't stop yourself from cheating with these other men, then there may be a problem. Do you have trouble with saying no to others, or making decisions? If you grew up with unusually strict parents, it may be that you're not used to having freedom to choose for yourself, so you struggle to commit to one guy.

    I agree with the others that seeing a therapist and avoiding committed relationships would be wise for the time being. If you still want to date, keep it casual. It sounds like you have already taken positive steps by recognizing the problem, and cutting ties with the guy you cheated with. Awareness is the first step. Good luck!

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  • ygrowup

    When your young most break a lot of hearts

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  • lc1988

    Maybe it's not temptation you need to say no to, it's a relationship...especially now entering college. Definitely time to see what's out there without any ties. I'm not saying to whore out but you know :). One day it'll get old or you'll find "the one" or maybe not! At least you won't feel guilty. Stay single for a while and have fun. My college days are over and now I'm just a boring wife :)

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    • runnergirl13

      I really like this response, thank you!

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  • I get too tempted as well which is why I am remaining single.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe you're a sex addict? If you can't control it you may very well be addicted to sex.

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  • I always do to ever since I was 12 or 13 I've always had at least 4 dicks in my mouth and my pussy on a regular basis

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  • 53739

    Because you're a woman and women are confused by their nature.

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  • disthing

    You don't need to be told it's wrong, so you shouldn't need to be told it's not normal behaviour. Stop thinking with your vagina.

    What do you expect us to say?

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    • RoseIsabella

      Don't you mean stop thinking with your clitoris?

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      • disthing

        I'm presuming the guys she cheated on her boyfriends with put their penises inside her vagina, rather than just stimulated her clitoris - don'tcha think?

        I'm sticking with the 'thinking with vagina'.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Meh... I imagine a chick would be thinking with her pleasure center not her birth canal if she's that sex crazed.

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          • disthing

            The vagina is also a sexual organ, the stimulation of which can result in an orgasm...

            How about: 'Stop thinking with your sexual organs'

            There. Happy now? Is that a reasonable compromise? -_-

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        • runnergirl13

          Never ever slept with another guy in means of cheating so if you could please stop discussing the different sections of my genitalia that would be fabulous. thanks xo

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          • RoseIsabella

            Cheating is cheating, even if you didn't mean to cheat it's still cheating. Cheaters are weak.

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