Is it normal that he says he's "confused", "doesn't know what he wants", etc.?

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So we've been together for 6 months now. Seemed like a great relationship. He was always telling me how much he loved me, how perfect I was, calling me cute names,saying that he wanted to marry me, saying that he'd never leave and love me forever; things of that sort.

So about 3 days ago, he texts me saying that he's "confused" and "doesn't know what he wants". That he "needs time to think". He also mentioned that it's not my fault, that he doesn't not want me, and it's not because he finds me unattractive or anything. He also mentions that he's not happy.

I asked if there was someone else, and he told me to stop. I also asked if he loved me. He again told me to stop and said that I'm being "ridiculous" and that I'm "over-reacting". He also said that "maybe we could be a couple again".

Of course,I am upset. I just don't understand how someone who supposedly loves me can go from telling me how much he loves me to telling me that I don't make him happy.

Is this just his way of saying there's someone else, but sugar-coating it? Is this just normal guy behavior? Is he scared to commit? (we have talked about getting married in the future, kids, etc.)

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Comments ( 12 )
  • Shoefish
    10 years ago

    From experience I would say he doesn't have the balls to tell you he doesn't want to be with you anymore and is hoping you'll just disappear. Some people are really that crap at life.

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    • 69
      10 years ago

      sounds exactly like this. if nothing better comes along he's still got op to fall back on. when someone can't answer if they love you it's because they don't

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  • Jeaneathean
    10 years ago

    He is giving you man talk for being an arsehole.

    Dump him first, or be prepared for the worst.

    Harsh, but I reckon this about sums it up.....

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Sounds like he's collapsing under his own pressure lol The guys was in the honey moon phase of your relationship, got high off of it and said things like marriage. Now that its died down a little like all relationships do, he's panicking. He's realized what a big commitment marriage and kids are. You should tell him not to take it so seriously. I think he's probably stressing himself out over nothig

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    He wants to break up IMO.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    My ex husband said the same type of bullshit about a week before I found out he was cheating with this fat bitch from his place of work. Dump his sorry ass! It might be hard to breakup with him but it will be a lot harder when he dumps you for some skank!

    When you ask a significant other a valid question like, "is there someone else" or "do you still love me" and that person says some pathetic shit like, "stop" it means he's a coward and doesn't have the balls to tell you the truth. You owe it to yourself to dump him. Whenever someone outright refuses to answer valid and important questions like you're asking that person is definitely hiding something!

    I wish you and any man or woman who is reading this and facing the same difficult issue all the best.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    I believe he has indeed found someone else he is interested in. It seems like he wants you on the hook if it doesn't work out with the other person, so it's now your choice.
    I vote to dump him right now, before he hurts you any more and forget this loser. Really, dump this dick; I'm sure you can do better.

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  • ThousandPoundsOfGanja
    10 years ago

    Have you fucked him? If not, he probably thinks if you didn't put out in 6 months, you won't put out anytime soon.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Oh yeah, we have. Lots. So, I don't think that's it.

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  • iheartu2013
    10 years ago

    He needs to stop beating around the bush, and dragging his feet, and tell you what he is thinking. He is obviously hiding something. You don't want him if he is going to that do you?

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    Maybe he is depressed..

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    You need to tell him you need a straight answer I guess. I'm not sure.

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