Is it normal that he didn't want to take the food?

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My BF and I have been together for 4 months. When he comes over to my place for dinner I always cook extra and pack some of the leftovers for him to take to work. This is what I always do, for myself too. However, his style of cooking is different. He only makes enough for dinner, so there are no leftovers. This doesn't bother me at all. He mostly comes to my place for dinner but every now and then I go to his. Last time he cooked dinner, there was only enough leftovers for one lunch. He wanted me to take it but I said no, because I was going home on he way to work and said I would prepare something home instead.

Yesterday when he came over for dinner, I packed some of the leftovers for him to take for lunch the next day. However, he refused. He said because last time I didn't want to take the leftovers he packed for me. I then kept persisting and he said he didn't want to take the, because he has been eating too much meat... But I do not think this is the real reason....

So, my dilemma is.... Next time he comes over for dinner, should I pack leftovers or not? Should I only make enough for dinner, and if there are enough leftovers for two, should I not pack some for him too? I don't want to make him feel awkward.

But, I love preparing his lunch for the next day :/

What to do?

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  • mystery7
    9 years ago

    Do too much of that and he'll start taking you for granted, or worse, start thinking that you are mothering him too much. Some guys don't like it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thank you.

      How do I find the balance :(

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      • mystery7
        9 years ago

        Maybe don't do it every time he visits. Cut it back by half and see how it goes.

        My experience is, when you do too much for people out of the kindness of your heart (which you obviously have), they often mistake your kindness for stupidity and begin to either take advantage of you or start treating you with less respect than you deserve.

        Sorry if that sounds cynical but I've seen it happen all too often.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Thank you. I really apreciate your advice

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    Let him know what you're cooking and ask him ahead of time if he would like you to pack him the leftovers?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    What you are doing is great, please don't stop doing it for him.

    Some words of advice are that there are some people who can't or won't appreciate what others do for them. Gently try to work on that, if you don't get anywhere with this you may have to consider trying to find someone who does appreciate it. Over time you will just get frustrated at this.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Haha. It's kinda cute that you're so worried about this. It's not really a big deal. If you like to eat leftovers cook more than you need for one meal; if he doesn't want them, no big deal.

    You should be glad you're in a nice relationship where your biggest worry is silly stuff like this, as opposed to all the other crazy motherfuckers on here, going through their bf's phone. It's nice...right!?

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    • shuggy-chan
      9 years ago

      *Gives you leftover vegetarian "chicken noodle soup"*

      Nom-nom-eat-em-up

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        Ooooo yummy. : )

        I'm glad you used only vegetarian chickens to make this soup. The chickens that attack and maul cows scare me.

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  • noid
    9 years ago

    Take his leftovers next time he offers. So things will be even.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    I stuffed up! Last time he offered leftovers I only took some soup because I alrady had leftover veggies and chicken at home. So last night instead of just pa king it up for him I asked if he would like me to do so. He said no. I asked are you sure. He said yes. I didn't wNt to push it, but was a bit upset by it :(

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    9 years ago

    He does appreciate it tho. It's almost as if he feels uncomfortable though, and feels like I'm doing too much :(

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