Is it normal that everytime i get mad, all of my problems hit me at once?

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Strangely enough, every problem I've ever had always ties into the big main problem (Money. Call me materialistic, I don't care. We all need this tool in order to build our lives). Everytime I get mad about something, all of these other problems start popping out like ants.

I'm aware of my anger issues, I know that I'm short tempered. But it's almost like I'm trying to keep myself mad, by thinking about all this other shit that is totally irrelevant to what got me mad. Whyy?!?! I don't like being upset and 'not in control', so why do I subconsciously keep a list of things that I can't fix? And then only choose to go over that list when I'm in hulk mode.

I just don't want to care about all of life's fucked up details, but every single one of them grinds my fucking gears. I have not seen a therapist or any professional help. If you can relate, please share your thoughts.

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  • graphic_nature
    8 years ago

    It is normal, but not exactly healthy. Being angry helps a person feel like they're in control of a situation. The best thing to do is try to resolve the little problems when they arise as soon and as calmly as you can. Don't let them slide. This will lessen your list. Fortunately you already found the main problem is money.

    Instead of feeling depressed you need to keep applying for better jobs, sell things on ebay or etsy on the side. I fought with my boyfriend almost daily about money and cried all the time. After 3 years of applying for better jobs (and giving up several times) I scored one and for once in my life I do not feel stressed about money. Screw the people that get handed everything in life, earning it is HARD but feels so much better!

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  • Extra_official
    8 years ago

    Its unfortunately normal to look at all the negatives when one comes along. At the end of the day we wanna be happy, and we look at what can change to make us happier even if we already where. If that makes sense.

    Money comes and goes all the time.

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  • Berenice66
    8 years ago

    Hey, it's totally normal. I tend to do it as well...one thing goes wrong and you might be so pessimistic that you start looking at other things that are also wrong to sort of explode and feel terribly bad about yourself for a while..I guess it's just a personality

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  • iamarobot
    8 years ago

    I've experienced the same but in another emotion; sadness. I guess when you think about something negative all the others come along with it. Pretty sure that's normal.

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