Is it normal that everyone says i am handsome, but i am still virgin at 24?

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I don't understand why, but people consider me extremely good looking. They make positive comments about my appearance all the time. At first I thought people were just being nice, but then I realized that they were always sincere.

I certainly don't consider myself handsome, beautiful or whatever. Everyone in my family is extremely attractive, so I never really felt special, in fact, I am the most average looking person among all my siblings and cousins. I certainly don't consider me ugly either... I am just average.

Anyway... what worries me is that... I have never had sex in my life. I am not a douchebag or anything, in fact, I am quite shy snd respectful with women. Yet, I have been rejected several times. I only had 2 girlfriends in my life and none ever showed interest in getting intimate. Whenever I hang out with friends and one of them is picking up girls, they never ask for me. My classmates always friendzoned me and they never showed any sexual interest in me at all.

I am just confused, I don't understand what people think of me. Is there an explanation for this contradiction?

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  • thr
    11 years ago | pl

    Isn't it so that personality is more important to women. You may be too shy and timid.

    It sounds like you need to be more daring and confident. Especially, when you write "they never ask for me." If it is the girls, that never ask for you, you need to remember that good things do not always come to those who wait.

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  • kawaiigurl
    10 years ago

    i'll take your virginity

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    • ScooterNyne
      10 years ago

      do eet faggot

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  • covert_pursuit
    11 years ago

    I am a girl, and I agree with the above. But from a woman perspective:

    I was a virgin until I was 23. I refused to be with a man that didn't respect me and see me for me. (those are really good qualities in a partner, and from the little you've written you seem like that kind of guy!) But I also never had any interest in men who were "nice" unless they also took the lead.

    Love is a complicated thing, but one of the most important things you need as a man, to make women interested in you, is confidence. (I don't know if its societal rules, or simply biology.) But men without confidence who do not take the lead are unappealing. (So are really pushy men, sometimes those guys can even be scary, so there is obviously a balance!)

    A guy can be so sexy you want to die when he looks at you, but unless he shows you that he's interested, and it's you he wants (preferably for more than just your ladybits), then most women will just not be interested. Or that is to say, they may be interested, but they will never do anything about it!

    It sucks to be a guy, I don't know if I would have ever had the confidence to be the one that pushes, but that's what you have to do. Push, but be a good guy. I think it'll help! After all, why would she invest her time, energy and emotions in you unless you show her that you want <i>her</i>?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I tried to be pushy a few times in the past, but I only had terrible experiences. I don't understand why women make such simple matters so complicated.

      Being a guy is certainly hard. If you aren't pushy enough, women feel rejected... if you are too pushy, they get offended and you will most certainly lose all your chances with them. The worst thing is that, women don't even want to talk with guys about their limits, they get offended by that too!

      I understand that confidence is what I need... It is just that... I feel like it is all a stupid game, a game that I don't want to be part of. I just wish you could just fall in love with someone naturally, without using tricks or acting to get the other person interested. Confidence is great or whatever when you are picking up girls... but honestly... confidence is not important at all once you are already in a relationship.

      I don't know... I guess I just don't want to act like an animal in heat.

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      • lily1993
        10 years ago

        Then don't!! You can go out and meet many girls,talk with them all and ser which one you click the most with
        ..and then you don't need to play any games. In fact be yourself okay?! Am sure your great yourself and that you have a charming personality,so let that speak out!!

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        • Hdjskdjdn
          7 years ago

          Yes they do!!! Women say they want a guy to have a "balance" between being an asshole and a wimp, but the balance never works because you you still have a bit of both and you and your either one or the other. Females dont (and never will) know what they want. Women make everything complicated even though it doesn't have to be. Just say you want his money and stop being so difficult. Lol.

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    • Hdjskdjdn
      7 years ago

      You cant compare your situation with a guy's. Because men and women are virgins for different reasons. And yea it is biology, to answer your "question". Anyway, there just what it is. A female whos a virgin, is going to be praised and a male whos a virgin is gonna be shamed. Women need to stop acting like they got it so bad.

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  • theory816
    8 years ago

    it could be that you are too handsome. a reason they could reject is because they respect you just by the way you look. it means you have a lot going for you other then sex. they are basically saving you for someone that you will be compatible with. its not about confidence or any of that bs. you are so handsome that they expect you to be a role model for society so they don't want to try and mess up your image. i understand you just want to have fun and not live up to your image sometimes but that fun isnt worth it iin the long run. look at bill clinton

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    • Hdjskdjdn
      7 years ago

      Come on, shut the hell up with all that crap. "They respect you by the way you look" "your too handsome" like for real just gtfo! Lmao

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  • ScooterNyne
    11 years ago

    I'm a VERY shy guy myself and I have a similar problem. (probably not as handsome as you but i'm a virgin too)

    All I can say is what people have said to me, which is be super confident, smile, and make the approach like a boss. I know first hand how hard all of that is but I also know that it works for a lot of people I know.

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    • lily1993
      10 years ago

      Am sure your handsome
      and if you tried and had more confidence in yourself you could probably meet many girls but the right ones who you could care about and share intimate moments with

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    • lily1993
      10 years ago

      I love shy guys but its problematic cause am shy too so if both parties are shy,then how is it supposed to happen ?!;)

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      • ScooterNyne
        10 years ago

        Yeah I now what you mean. How are two shy people ever going to meet haha? There are those encounters though that do happen between shy lovers. It's rare but when that connection is made it fosters the cutest, most wonderful relationships.

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