Is it normal that all the people that i would like to have in my life...

I hate to admit this but I was probably guilty of that when I was much younger because I came from a dysfunctional family and was very sheltered. I cannot stress enough how much therapy and twelve step work for codependency can help help with these sorts of problems. I feel that within the last few years I've changed myself for the better and hope I can continue to do so.

I used to feel obligated to help people who were overly demanding and pushy because I was behaving in a codependent manner myself. Now when I get around people like that I just feel very drained, tired and resentful so I choose to just detach from them for the sake of my own sanity and serenity. Sure a lot of calls and texts go unanswered but that's what I need to do to care for and protect myself. If a needy, selfish and demanding person feels hurt by my actions that's just too bad. I believe that God gives all of us free will so those sorts of people are free to seek out help from qualified therapists and the like so they can improve themselves if they so choose. If they choose to do nothing then thats on them and not my problem.

Thanks for your comment, I appreciate it however, I don't feel I'm like that at all. In fact I keep most things to myself instead of bothering the other person about it. There have been times, il admit, that il imply things but I never say what I really feel. Sometimes I do want to say "hey you don't have to pretend you care you know" or "Why do you say things you don't mean?" I am real disappointed that I don't get to get these things off my chest but I feel that if I did say things like this it would make me seem clingy or too attached. What's you opinion on this?

I must ask this though, apart from 'fear of intimacy' are there any other subconscious feelings that could be due to this cause? I mean why do u assume it's fear of intimacy? Also one more thing, I have made a recent post and you were communicating with me, then u randomly stopped replying :( Why?

really...hmm

So u have not given up on friends then, therefore u have not given up totally :)

IS this a rhetorical question ?

Thanks for your comment- well worded however,I know it comes down to reality at the end of the day. The guys I go for are based on personality not looks at all. It seems like ur implying that I am expecting a stunner to come along or that I am only interested in good looking guys when in fact it's the opposite. The guy that I had a huge crush on was cool, popular and still is and probably a little egotistical now that I think of it. He is deff not amazingly gorgeous. He has freckles and I think a lot of girls would wonder why I liked him. I liked him for him. The main thing I loved was his humor, he was just so funny. The thing I was trying to make a point of in my post is that I hardly ever develop crushes and when I do, the fella doesn't feel the same. Similar goes in friendships, I try really hard at pursuing a long lasting friendship with certain people. I am always making the contact eg- txt and usually asking when to catch up.