Is it normal that after years with another girlfriend, i still want another?

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I did what everyone recommended, even people on this site. I was completely in love with a woman for years who wanted to be my friend-we were in the friend zone. So I moved on, got on with my life, began a relationship with another woman (that I am still in), had fun and tried to forget about her, hoping that she would come back to me. It has been a year and a half and we are farther apart than we have ever been. She never contacts me. I don't think we will ever even see each other again. What can I do to get her interested in me? I know we are right for each other. I miss her! Is it normal that I still want her?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    There is nothing you can do to get her interested in you.

    There is no magic formula, there is not set rule, no instruction manual, nothing. If she is not interested in you, then she is NOT INTERESTED IN YOU. Nothing is going to happen, you can't make her love you, you can't force her to love you, and you're damned near crazy if you want to throw away a good relationship to chase a fantasy.

    If she wanted you, it would have happened. But it didn't. That's the way the cookie crumbles sometimes. It sucks! It's heart breaking! It's out-right terrible to be in love with someone that doesn't feel the same way but you just have to get over it, move on and ACTUALLY MOVE ON and accept the fact that this woman will not be with you. If she already knows how you feel and she still shows no interest, then that's it. That's the end of the story for you two.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    People tell you to get another girlfriend to move on. This drifting thing is supposed to happen to you don't have to suffer anymore. You are probably suffering less with the girl you are with than when you were right by teh girls side watching everthing, am I right? If you want her though, after all this time. Go get her. Confess to her again and get your heart broken. Or you get the girl, and live happily ever after. Either way you get some closure

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  • x1frosty16
    11 years ago

    Have you told her how you feel? That you care more for her than just a friend?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    @ kelili: No I disagree with you. It is common for men and women to have preferences with who they date. I just know what I want and I am not satisfied with just anybody. And I don't involve myself with someone only because they like me back.

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You are not okay. This is a kind of unhealthy obsession which can only ruin you

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Yes I told her how I feel. We were really good friends, and she wanted to be my best friend. But you are right, that was in the past. I will always hope though. My new girl is so different than she is. It was better with her, even without the sex. I have never had as much fun, felt so much myself, and felt so comfortable. But it is time to be real. Thanks for the comments.

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