Is it normal that after a three year relationship, i already feel over it?

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I don't feel COMPLETELY over it.. But about a week after it happened, I started feeling numb and neutral. I'm a bit concerned about this feeling of emotional numbness because I don't know if soon it's going to hit me all of a sudden and I'll stop being numb. I've pretty much just been drinking and partying since we broke up to get my mind off of it, so this could play a part in it. Am I actually getting over it, or is it the numbness making me think so? Will the numbness wear off and make things really horrible for me soon? By the way, it's been about a month in total now.

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  • Animosity
    12 years ago

    Thanks for the input. I really don't like how that sounds. I was very much in love with him and we started dating when I was 14 up and until I was 17, and he was a major part in my life. It's been a huge life change for me and I've been at home more the past few days. Since being home, I've thought about him every time I woke up in the morning and it's a horrible feeling. I still haven't cried yet though (Not since the first week it happened when I felt like dying).

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    • joybird
      12 years ago

      You are really very young, although with hormones these are often the years with strongest feelings. However, you will meet loads of new people as you go through life and there will definitely be someone new for you.

      Just think of them as buses.
      There'll be another one along in a short while ;o)

      Get out there and socialise. Good luck!

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  • bumblecreek
    12 years ago

    right now your just stunned from the actual event of breaking up, and the neutral feeling is normal. but later on you'll probably start feeling like shit. that's just how it goes unfortunately.
    but then you'll meet someone new who will totally make you feel different and get over this past relationship, and that's a continuing cycle of life until you eventually find the right one.

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  • MoistWarmDesires
    12 years ago

    They say it takes one month for every year you were in the relationship to completely get over someone.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    I think you have to actually sit with your sober thoughts for a couple of weeks to answer that.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Apparently it normally only taks 3 months to get over a relationship. Party for 3 months, then you'll be ok.

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    • sleepingbeauty
      12 years ago

      That really depends on the depth of feelings in the relationship and the manner and reasons that you broke up. I took 3 years to get over one relationship, and I was the one that broke it up.

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        I can't believe you sat and cried for 3 years!! I'd have suggested you go out and meet someone new to take your mind off him.

        I actually know a woman whose husband left her 24 years ago for another woman, she never dated anyone else and would still take him back. Move on Mrs!!

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        • sleepingbeauty
          12 years ago

          I didn't cry solidly for 3 years! lol.

          And in fact I started seeing someone else about 7 months later, but there was no love and my heart was broken. I continued to suffer bouts of depression for 3 years as a direct result of the break up. I had a good public face, don't get me wrong.

          Anyway this was a long time ago, but I suggest you don't put timescales on peoples emotions, it doesn't work that way and just sounds patronising.

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          • joybird
            12 years ago

            I only quoted statistics so I don't know how you find that patronising.

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            • sleepingbeauty
              12 years ago

              Statistics on how long it takes to get over a relationship...how the hell is that measured? And quoting statistics as a fact for such an ambiguous and emotional subject does sound patronising as does stating: "Move on Mrs".

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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    Drinking and partying, you're using them to distract yourself from what happened. It'll hit you. You should face it now instead of later.

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  • FussyCarrot
    12 years ago

    ur definitely in that initial state of shock. once the numbness wears off its going to hurt, bad. but when u get past the shock of it all u'll start to see things with a clear mind and beging to heal

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  • ggeineg
    12 years ago

    The only way to get over it is to deal with it as fast as you can. You can numb it now but when the numbness wears off it's going to hit you ten times harder :( just know that you will be okay :) time heals everything

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  • Sexallent34
    12 years ago

    The numbness will wear off and the pain will set in. You are in a state of shock right now.

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  • fuZi8n
    12 years ago

    Three years? I get tired of it after 3 months

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