Is it normal that after 15 years together and 5 kids that i want a divorce?

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We have been together sense I was 15, him 21. Married for 10 years. The past 2 years We've lived apart due to his job. We see each other maybe 5 days a month. He has done somethings like gone to strip clubs, parties, bars, while away and "working" while I'm home being a good little wife and mom of 5 kids! I don't trust him, He has always been Extremely neglectful as a Husband and a father and he even admits he does and never tries to change his ways, even when we did live together.

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Based on 97 votes (62 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I agree with them quit job or lose us

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  • itssofluffy12
    13 years ago

    Tell him to quit the job or loose your family!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    get legal advice as the first step protect assets, work out the finances so you can survive with the kids, plan what you want/need to do workwise or traning, research these things. keep your plans to yourself and start the ball rolling. do not involve him in your plans or you might be railroaded, you are lucky in a way you have had to get by without him so yr half way there , goodluck

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  • ck38
    13 years ago

    Leave him.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    He doesnt treat you right im sorry i think yall should divorce

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  • darthbrooks
    11 years ago

    YOU MUST TELL HIM before you drop him like a hot potato. Even a horrible cad should be warned - "ONE MORE TIME OF _____ AND IM LEAVING"

    Even make him sign it.

    Just dont surprise him. He could be so lost in his own troublesome thoughts that he doesnt realize the effect his awful words and actions have on you

    Please warn him one last time, when everyone is calm

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  • DrinaVonCheez
    12 years ago

    Yeah I think you should leave him, its not fair to you & your children.
    Divorce sucks, my dad left us after 26 years so I know how it is from the kids point, even if technically I'm an adult. It makes you a stronger person though, honestly.

    I'm sorry you have to go through this :(
    I hope you find happiness soon with whatever decision you make. Good luck!

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    • Tiffunny
      12 years ago

      Thank you !

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  • Tiffunny
    13 years ago

    True, and I will. However I am so unsure of how I feel or if what I'm feeling/going through is normal. So thats why I got on here. To see what other people in the world opinions are. Thanks for yours.

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  • Tiffunny
    13 years ago

    I cant stop saying "Thank You " But I really mean it !! I'm Not a bad looking girl as you can see from my profile page, I have many hobbies... sewing, painting, pottery,tennis,teaching,Yoga,running,biking,hiking ect.. But "This ?!!" It SO hard for me to do and I have NO IDEA if im even thinking right. But with your comments its helping me grab a brain and use it !!! Thank You. Please keep coming with the comments and ideas, HELP ME...!!!! LOL

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  • cal1swwag
    13 years ago

    Think about it!!!!!!! I know you have talked about it before but actually hAve a conversation about divorce WITHOUT it being an option. If u still feel the same then do what your gut says

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  • Tiffunny
    13 years ago

    Thank You Guys So much on commenting on my issues, You have been very helpful. I have No one to turn to for advice about this. Thanks

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  • Tiffunny
    13 years ago

    Thank you. How ?

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