Is it normal that a woman has a 'shopping list' for what she wants in a man?

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Is it normal that a woman has an impossible 'shopping list' for what she wants in a guy?

Some years ago now I met up with an acquaintance / former work colleague (about 25 yrs old) for lunch and we were talking about relationships and what we want in a partner.

She sat there and rattled off a HUGE list of things that she MUST have for anyone to have the REMOTEST chance of a relationship with her. It sounded more like a job interview for the guy. She was adamant that she must be able to tick all the boxes.

She is from a wealthy family, in an expensive neighborhood and a privileged background.

Here's a sample.

He must:
- be very wealthy asset wise, as well as earn at least $200k per year
- must have a college degree
- have model looks and be incredibly fit
- own his own home
- be at least 6'2" (she is only 5'3")
- not have any children of his own or have been married before
- be a doctor, lawyer, successful business owner or similar level profession
- have the same outlook on life as her as regards religion, philosophy etc

This was just a small sample of her 'must haves'.
I haven't see her in a few years now but do wonder if she ever found this perfect (probably non-existent) man.

My question is: Is it normal that women have this kind of impossible shopping list for a partner in life?

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36% Normal

Based on 25 votes (9 yes)

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Terence_the_viking

8 years ago

Shit all i thought they wanted was a good ground and pound.

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hesajeb

8 years ago

I guess a lot of women have a check list. But often they fall for people with none or less of the points checked off. I guess in the end, the list doesn't really matter that much

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bubblyblonde1999

8 years ago

I think its good to know what you want in a man, but if you stick completely with that 'shopping list' then you are going to miss out on so many opportunities. Because a great guy could walk up to you and he could have 8 out of the ten qualities you seek. But since he is missing two of the ten qualities, you won't want to be with him. Sometimes the perfect guy just doesn't exist.

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flamer180

8 years ago

She has to let some of those things go lol

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deepdankstickygoo

8 years ago

She wants a guy who is like her dad...who is probably a doctor or a lawyer and also fits all of her requirements in that list. Daddies little princess syndrome it sounds like.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  8 years ago
  
  ...but if daddy's little girl is like father like daughter then she's simply in search of someone with whom she is compatible, she may simply be in search of an equal.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Very perceptive. You my friend are exactly right. Her father was a very successful and well known <insert profession here>.
  
  Yes, come to think of it she did have the daddie's little princess syndrome going on.
  
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  - deepdankstickygoo
    
    8 years ago
    
    Richard Simmons.
    
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mysistersshadow

8 years ago

Nothing wrong with knowing what you want. She may get it or she may not but is her life so shes entitled to play it any way she wants to.

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RoseIsabella

8 years ago

Doesn't sound so crazy if she happens to be the female equivalent of what she's looking for in a man. I myself don't have children, and therefore prefer to date a man who doesn't have any children either, because I don't care to have any baby mama drama. If this chick looks like a toad then her list of must haves could very well be comical at best, but if she's a successful hottie herself then what's wrong with her having high standards?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Nothing wrong with having some standards and 'must haves' in a potential partner, but seemed her list was so exacting that such a person probably does not exist.
  
  She was attractive at the time but nothing to write home about. On an attractiveness scale of 1-10 I thought she was about a 6.5. She was definitely not my type. I did see her in passing a few years later and she had unfortunately ballooned to about 3 times the size and was almost unrecognizable.
  
  Maybe she found her Mr Perfect and let herself go?
  
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  - Soapy_Testicles
    
    8 years ago
    
    More likely she didn't find "Mr. Perfect" and the resulting stress from that caused her to balloon. Although if she had kids that could explain weight gain as well.
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      8 years ago
      
      You never know.
      
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Der_Führer_Adolf_Hitler

8 years ago

I have a shopping list for what I want in a woman.

She must not be Jewish.
She must be a full-blooded member of the Aryan race.
She must be German.
She must be willing to kill Jews.
She must address me with "Mein Führer".
She must be 42 years my junior.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

PLEASE please find her and check out who she's actually with, I'd love to know.

What's the bet she fell for someone totally different to her shopping list?

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IMissMary

8 years ago

Nothing wrong with that.

Only thing is, will someone who has all the checks, choose someone like her?

These days a female has to be more than a trophy [make that a money grubbing trophy]. Pre-nups are more common, a female has to be more independent and able to earn her own income.

IMO all wealthy men should get a vasectomy and just keep a few LBFM's around.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  8 years ago
  
  Right on
  
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