Is it normal that a 17 y/o has a long distance relationship with a 42 y/o man ?

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I just want to clarify that it isn't really a relationship, it's a friends with benefits type of thing. I rely on him through my struggles and I help him with his. He helps me in every aspect of myself, sexually even. I try to ignore his age but it really does bother me. You could call me a slut if you want... I just kinda want to admit it to someone... anonymously. I keep this to myself and no one knows. It's really taboo. And I am disgusted by the fact every day.. but I can't stop being his friend because I really enjoy talking to him. He is an amazing person. I have never met him in person. and I am the one initiating the sexy talk. Never him.

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15% Normal
Based on 97 votes (15 yes)
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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You've never met him and you're already head over heels in love. I can smell it from here. Why pretend the contrary? Just an advise - this will get you nowhere so you better start to detach.

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    It's pretty difficult for me to say whether it's normal or not because you two have not actually been in the same room! However, the fact that you're talking about sex with someone who is old enough to be your father is appalling and needs to be stopped before furthering your so-called friendship! If you can stick to being friends....I mean true friends, where the two of you talk about life things and he is guiding you as an older person who has experienced much more than you....that would be ok! If you don'think you can handle a calmer relationship with him without sex talk, then advise you to leave him alone, just until your reach the age of 18!

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    I think it's normal for you to look up to him as a friend but the sexual things makes me think of him as a pervert and loser.. I know you won't like to hear it but you're damaging yourself mentally and you both need to wean off one another..
    You might be instigating but I think he knows you'd do that and takes advantage of you. You'll probably hate yourself when you'll be mature enough to see how wrong it is..

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Probably you enjoy the attention, maybe? I wouldn't call you a slut. Imprudent, yeah. Your own feelings of shame and disgust are probably telling you something...

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  • hurtgirlfriend
    11 years ago

    Honey, leave him alone. You could do so much better than a sexual predator who is old enough to be your dad. He is preying on you; he's a child molestor.

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  • Bubbles-for-life
    11 years ago

    2 words.....Wait no -counts on fingers-.....4!

    VERY

    GROSS

    UNDER

    AGE

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    you're being used and he needs to go to jail!

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    Is 17 legal in your state?

    I don't advise that you continue to do this with someone you don't know as this could lead to dangerous events. I going with what Kelili said.

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  • Couman
    11 years ago

    It's not exactly normal, but I think it's alot easier to overlook age in a long-distance relationship.

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  • kinkyjesus
    11 years ago

    Normal?

    Probably.

    Healthy? No.

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