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Sometimes I come home and my wife is OBVIOUSLY high on something. I have no idea what it is because we don't have anything in the house that could make her high. She is not crazy fall down stupid high but definitely has a good buzz going.
Should I question her about what she has been taking or just leave it alone?
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Relationships are about communication maybe you should ask her and not random ppl on the internet.
I didn't say to ask her what she was taking you asked if you should ask her and I said yes you should.
So I should ask her if I should ask her instead of asking people on the internet if I should ask her?
From your replies its becoming increasingly clear why shes getting high its probly the only way she can stand to be around you.
So lets try one last time: If you want to know whats going on with her ASK HER. No one here knows if shes getting high as you suspect or what shes using if she is but she does. Go to the source and ASK HER whatever it is you want to know.
Is she lazy or speedy. That would help you narrow down what to look for. Does she have friends over when your gone.
Ask her but dont be a dick about it, maybe she just smokes a joint or something to get through the day because shes depressed or something.
Learn the withdrawal symptoms of Valium. Your problems are only beginning.
If it's not affecting her behaviour or your life in a negative way why be intrusive? You are partners not possessions.
It almost seems people think they have a right to intrude and expect disclosure on every little detail. "Why are you so happy? What's wrong with you today? Did something happen?"
I'm sure if she wants to tell you she will. In the meantime just enjoy her good mood. Maybe she had a good day, is glad you're home or just feels good about herself? Why expect her to justify or explain it just to satisfy your curiosity?
Get a life. Leave her be until you have reason to intrude. Her being happy is not reason enough.
I agree 100%
I don't know why people feel they have a right to deny people their privacy. All he needs to do is make sure she won't hurt herself or others. Sounds like she just has a good buzz going not like she's on meth or crack.
These same people probably try to control what their mates watch like porn, complain about their mates masturbating or other private things.
Yes it unfortunately seems to be a sign the times. It's not even clear if she's buzzed or just happy? There is 'nothing in the house' that could cause it, so who really knows?
People fear what they don't understand. Worry that someone else's happiness will showcase their own dissatisfaction.
Whatever happened to everyone minding their own business and being content? Since when did people feel the right to judge or question the individual freedoms of another?
People who demand to know every single detail about someone else's life do it in order to make themselves feel superior. To boost themselves up by bringing someone else down.
When it's at the expense of someone's basic right to privacy that's not progressive. It's intrusive and self serving.
@: IMissMary
Given the OP has said "When we married I found a stash of Valium and other pills she had, I didn't make a big deal out of it but she started sharing them with me. She must have had a few hundred pills, boxes and boxes.", I think there is a legitimate reason for concern here.
Seriously, if you came home to find your partner clearly buzzed off his/her face on something, you'd smile and think "live and let live"? Even though he/she has shown a predilection for recreational drug use in the past, you wouldn't be concerned enough to care?
Serious question here, Where is the line drawn? Do you start asking questions when you come home to see lines of powder on the coffee table, or when the mortgage stops getting paid, or when you come home to see the person you love laying on the floor in a pool of their own vomit?
Like I said, I would not drill them... My first priority would be to make sure they are safe. The OP wife seemed to be just buzzed not shitfaced out of it. If it affected their health, the relationship, work etc then i would ask but not demand because you simply can not demand that someone tells you their personal business. Relationships are about trust, so I give it and trust that my partner would tell me what they want, when they wanted too.
There is no trust anymore. It's all about the male ego, control and bullshit white knight behaviour used to justify disrespecting privacy. 'I just had to know for her own good' despite any lack of evidence. Refreshing to see your open mind on this subject. I found it rather telling that OP discovered her Valium stash previously but that was okay because she shared them with him.
Cool, that sounds like a thoughtful and sensible reaction. Thanks for clearing that up.
Yes dumbass, you should ask your wife what she has been taking. Although, given the fact that you need to ask anonymous people on the internet whether you should ask you wife about her drug habits, she will probably convince you she is just in a good mood and "naturally high", and you'll be stupid enough to believe her.
I agree, you should not be asking random people on the internet what your wife has been taking....why don't you ask her!
Well actually I am the opposite of other folks here. I say give her, her privacy. If she wanted you to know she would tell you...
Be her mate and protect her and let her enjoy her high. Make sure she don't fall, etc. If/when she wants you to know, she will tell you...
What people don't realize is people have a 'right' to privacy, even from their spouse. Nobody on Earth has a right know everything about you, your secrets, your thoughts, desires, etc. You have the right to share what you want without threats or backlash.
These young folk need to grow up a bit.
Ask her if she's high. Ya'll need to be able to communicate openly and honestly. If she's high on weed be cool, and don't freak out, cause that stuff should be legal anyway. Does she have any pain issues for which she might have a prescription? If it's something other than weed or prescription medication that she's taking for a legitimate reason then and only then would I be concerned.