Is it normal so many people want to talk about sex all the time

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I am asexual but not come out to anyone only my mom kind of.
I need to come out because dating will never go well otherwise. I keep it from people and then they feel betrayed. Hence I need to stop getting close to guys while keeping such a big dealbreaker from them. So coming out to dates is a given, but that makes sense because you're gonna be dating. Somehow keeping my asexuality secret is a problem in friendship as well though.

When I make friends they end up thinking im too innocent to be around. Thats what ive been told by the most recent friend who abandoned me. My only longterm friends are guys who seem asexual or close to it. Other people I meet seem to find it boring not being able to talk about sex with me.
The main reason I dont want to do that is not because im prude, in fact I can be pretty dirtyminded but I keep it to myself. Im afraid of judgment as joking about sex would make potential friends want to talk more about the topic and soon i'd have to reveal i'm a virgin. I know that saying "i'm a virgin" wouldn't help, they'd assume i'm as obsessed with sex as they are and make a big deal out of it, so i'd have to come out at the same time. This is what I don't get about sexual people - It's not just a dealbreaker in romantic relationships but also in friendships. Why the need to make so many conversations and jokes about sex in some way? Most of the time I don't know what to talk to people about because of this. I assume they think i'm boring because I don't go straight to making sexual innuendos etc. I feel a pressure to always make sex jokes and lowkey flirt even with potential friends to please them and not be prude.

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  • bbrown95
    2 years ago

    I feel the same way (and I'm also asexual); I do not understand how sex is such an interesting topic to so many people that it gets brought up as much as it does, is such a recurring theme in the media (movies, TV shows, music, books, news stories, it's everywhere), and how nosy people are about others' sex lives. I get it's a part of the vast majority of people's lives and something that is important to a lot of people, but it just doesn't seem so interesting to me that it needs to be brought up nearly as much as it is; in fact seems a bit TMI, and I also find it to be more of a private subject (in terms of talking about your own sex life), at least IMO.

    I had always hoped that the obsession with talking about sex was just a phase teens went through when it was relatively new to them, but it unfortunately doesn't seem to be the case. Thankfully, I'm not around a lot of people who bring it up all the time. If anyone tries to pry about my sex life, I just tell them I prefer to keep that information private. People who respect you should respect the fact that you don't want to disclose that.

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Sex is just an interesting topic in general, it's both taboo enough to be a spicy topic and general enough (not in your case) to have an opinion about it. It's like farts, like it or hate it we all do it at some point.

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  • Hookerfall
    2 years ago

    Pretty sure my sister is asexual but fakes being into men as shes anti men and says she doesn't even like kissing but she has no fucking back bone and is an OTT people pleaser 😑

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