Iin: should i move out?

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This year has been nothing than a roller coaster of good and upsetting things. I am an 18-year-old (turning 19 soon) and I am still living with my parents. I work full time and I am going back to school soon. I want to move out with my best friend and I am hoping in the near future.

I want to move out because at home I am always on the brink of having a mental breakdown.

I love my parents but they just are always breathing down my neck about being home and who I was with. See, I get it. Parents do that and it's annoying but for real, my parents are next level.

I always have to be calling my mom about where I am at if not she calls me nonstop until I get home. If I don't answer her, she tells my dad and he's constantly calling me. And the worst part is...I am not out later than 5 PM! I go to work from 5 AM to 2 PM and after that, I have a drink or hang with a friend for an hour or so if I could but in order to do that without my mom breathing down my neck for it, I lie saying I am doing overtime at work.

I am not allowed to have friends and I think once maybe twice a year I can be out late and that means no later than 11 or 12. I hate lying but I do it compulsively just so they don't call me that much. I do it so much that its like second nature, I really fucking hate that. I try not to lie but when I say the truth I get a tough time from them and I even get called nasty names.

Then when I am home, they are constantly breathing down my neck about money. I understand financial hardship but I can't stand it. I help buy things and even spoil my mom when I can but I can't stand it anymore. It feels overwhelming.

In one of my attempts to hang out with friends I sneaked out and my mom caught me. When I got home, my mom hit me with her high heel and left a couple bruises around my body. I tried to leave that very moment but she didn't let me. I feel trapped.

I'm not a perfect daughter, I admit, I've done my fair share of bad things in the past but now I just want to go to school, work and be independent. And if I were honest, I also want to take a break from my family. But, I want to experiment being on my own and just seeing what that's like too.

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  • Friedchiken
    6 years ago

    Even if you didn't have to I always think it's good to push yourself into doing things like that. It's good to get out of your comfort zone and experience things.

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  • Britneywolf
    6 years ago

    Move out

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  • CDmale4fem
    6 years ago

    What happens if you tell them you have your own life and you are trying to find yourself, your sense of independence. Tell them if they always try to or want to treat you like a 16 year old you will not be able to make decisions for yourself and getting your ways of thinking and problem solving into adult mode. It might take you having to lash out a few times, telling them you ate with your friends, and you are going to stay the night with your female friend so you can roleplay and experiment with lesbian sex. I bet their chins would hit the floor.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Your mom is abusive. You need to tell the police what she did to you. Both of your parents need to mind their own business. Moving out is something you absolutely need to do. I wouldn't blame you for purposefully losing contact with them either.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Noooo that is physical abuse. I would contact the police. Also you are an adult and can leave. I'm a bit startled that you haven't already, given you have income and a potential person to split rent with. Leave immediately, then you can keep your money go out past midnight every night and not get bothered or physically assaulted in your own home or ever.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      Yes you should move out.

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      • lovematicgyal
        6 years ago

        Thanks

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