Is it normal sex made me madly in love with my “no strings attached” fling?

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Long story short: I’m French, she’s a Tunisian Arab and we have been having casual sex for almost a year now. Initially I wasn’t attracted to her, but now I’m madly in love with her. She can’t be with me because she’s Muslim and Muslim girls are not allowed to be with non Muslim guys. Her virginity was already taken when we met, so even though it’s against her culture, she seeked a partner for casual sex, which happened to be me.

is it normal to become so madly in love with a very under average girl just from the frequent physical contact? I can’t wrap my head around it.

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Based on 14 votes (13 yes)
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  • Clunk42
    2 years ago

    Imagine following Mohammedan marriage law without following Mohammedan sexual law. That's pretty sad, right there.

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  • Boojum
    2 years ago

    This is common enough that there's a colloquial term for it in English: "catching feelings". (In the same way you might "catch a cold".)

    Personally, I can't imagine being in an intimate relationship with someone for as long as you've been with the woman and not developing an emotional attachment. Maybe it's just the way my brain happens to be wired up or maybe it's my advanced age, but it seems weird to me that people these days assume they should be able to have long-term sexual relationships, keep it strictly physical and never come to care about the other person on an emotional level. That strikes me as verging on sociopathic; just using another person solely for your own gratification without any empathy for them or appreciation of them as another human being.

    But considering the circumstances here, you might consider that there could be another factor at work. For quite a few people, not being able to have someone makes them even more attractive. "Playing hard to get" works because it can increase the perceived value of them as a mate.

    It seems to me that there's a very important factor that you don't mention in your OP: what's going on in the woman's head. If she has also developed a strong emotional attachment to you, then you've both got some serious thinking to do, some serious discussions ahead of you and some serious choices to make. If you're certain that she merely considers you a good fuck and she's very determined that your relationship will never go to a different level, then you need to consider how long you're willing to put up with the angst of being in love with someone who doesn't love you and never will.

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  • Curiouskitten444
    2 years ago

    I cant tell if this is a serious question. Obviously you have feelings you silly goose.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    2 years ago

    Many people connect sex with love. Your feelings toward her are normal.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    If she will get serious you could always convert

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