Iin: really not sure about this?

63% Normal
4 Comments

Hi there. I'm going to try to get right to the point. So I met this woman at work and I could tell right away that she would be the 'type' for me. She is shy, quiet and smart all at the same time- perfect!

However, I feel unsure about a few things. I haven't yet, in my life, ever had a true girlfriend so my ineptitude when it comes to dating shines through here. I feel as though she does like me, but she doesn't present a lot of flirtation. She, is in a lot of ways like me. She is really shy about opening up and letting people ''in'' to her life. So I'm optimistic about that. I'm also rather confident because we always keep in touch, and we have hung out on a few occasions.

But...at the same time, I also feel that it's just another woman who just doesn't feel the chemistry and just wants to be friends. I think a lot of this has to do with confidence and social skills. It's unfortunate because she is a lot like me, but I feel that if I had just an ounce of social skill when it comes to flirting/relationship stuff, I'd be in a better situation.

I guess my question would be: how do I handle this going forward? Do I just lay on super-thick flirtations, or just keep talking to her?

And just for decorum sake- Is It Normal?

Voting Results
63% Normal
Based on 8 votes (5 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 )
  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Well if you stay at your current pace you might end up as goid friends...hard to tell for sure.
    id be bold and ask her on a date...something that feels like a date not just friends...maybe include something she likes. You Said you guys keep in contact...what are some of her fav things???

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Hey- thanks for the comment!

      Thing is, I have indeed asked for a date. I kind of slipped it in there, seeing as we were just going to go out to eat anyways. Needless to say, it didn't happen because it was during the holidays and we were both busy as well as the weather was inclement.

      And as for likes, I'm not too sure. I mean, she goes to school and works. There's really nothing exciting to do in the area we live in, but I'm slowly but surely learning what she enjoys.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Sometimes there are events in your town or ones around..you can look them up online...they make little fun thigs to do.

        You need to find out mire of her likes...dinner and a trip to the planetarium to see a star show sounds romantic to me...but im not sure if it would be the same for her...depends on what she is interested in

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
  • svali
    9 years ago

    Uuuuhh Idk..

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1