Is it normal or should i come clean??

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I had a really tough childhood and as a result didn't date at all in high school. in fact, I hadn't even kissed anyone until I met my current boyfriend. however, when he asked about my past, I lied saying I had dated people. to be honest, it was easier to lie than, to tell the truth about my childhood and in another sense, i was embarrassed because I was 20 when we started dating. I feel really bad now because recently he has asked more questions about my 'past partners' and I just had to keep lying cos I was afraid, to tell the truth. I never thought I would ever love him the way I do now so I didn't feel bad lying in the beginning because I really didn't care. is it normal to feel bad and should I tell him the truth or should I just leave it be as my relationship is really good and everything else I have told him outside of my past relationships is completely true?

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  • charli.m
    7 years ago

    I didn't start dating until I was 23. Not everyone is ready in their teens, or they have different priorities.

    But lying in a relationship is always going to bite you on the arse. Relationships need to be based on honesty and trust. All you can do is explain your reasons and apologise and hope he forgives you. How long have you been dating?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Honestly, I think we haven't been dating long enough that he would forgive me.

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      • charli.m
        7 years ago

        The longer you leave it, the lesser he is likely to forgive you.

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        • Angelandme
          7 years ago

          I agree I didn't start dating until I was 21 and I still got my very first gf 5 years later.

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        • Mels_wrath
          7 years ago

          Very true, very true indeed. Almost an exact parallel to some of the interactions you find yourself in on this very website.

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          • charli.m
            7 years ago

            Who exactly do I need to seek forgiveness from for not telling what?

            You're really reaching, here.

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            • Mels_wrath
              7 years ago

              Forgiveness from the many different people you label as trolls and idiots. These people have just been trying to make you realize how futile your efforts are and how unhealthy it is to vent your rage online as you do.

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      • nikkiclaire
        6 years ago

        He won't care hun, trust me. If you keep lying tho the relationship won't be any fun for you and you'll wind up miserable.

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  • JewluminatiTits
    7 years ago

    You should never be ashamed of not dating people until your older. Nobody should. There is nothing wrong with that and I actually hope to do that. The idea that someone is cool because they date a lot of people is stupid. I would never want to be a slut that goes around dating every boy in sight. It's not a good thing. If anything it's actually better that you haven't in my opinion. You should 100 percent tell him. And do not expect him to take it well that you lied to him because that's your own fault for being so naive. You shouldn't have lied to him to being with and you face the consequences for what you have done.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I didn't lie to him because I was naive. I lied because I really didn't want to explain to him why I hadn't dated.

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      • TexasToast09
        7 years ago

        Just tell him that then. Tell him you lied to him and it was because you weren't comfortable telling him why you haven't dated before. If you still aren't comfortable telling him about your past, let him know that. You shouldn't lie, and you shouldn't have to lie. If he doesn't understand, it's probably better to know that sooner than later.

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        • nikkiclaire
          6 years ago

          THIS

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    Girls with lesser sexual experience have a higher value. Telling him will only make yourself more appealing in your boyfriend's eyes.

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  • ojimpu
    6 years ago

    Come clean. Nothing good comes with lying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    7 years ago

    Come clean,my husband did this with me,he said 7 but I was the third,,,big difference!!! But it made me understand him better when I found out and made me be abit more understanding/caring. He won't be happy you lied but I'm sure he will understand why if you tell him you wer embarrassed and most guys love the whole virgin scene...

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  • Dreamprisoner
    7 years ago

    It's normal, but you should still come clean. If the relationship carries on it should be founded on honesty. I don't think he'll care that much how many past partners you've had.

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