Is it normal or is this verbal abuse?

My father will yell and swear at me and bitch me out on a lot of stuff. Sometimes just for no reason. It hurts my feelings, usually makes me cry later on or on the spot, and makes me feel like shit. A few examples-
I washed his car but said it wasnt good enough because i missed a couple bugs on the grill. Although the rest was sparkling. He yelled and sweared at me.
I have B in one of my classes (the rest I have A's) he yells and bitches on how I'm a failure and a dissapointment.
I had a skiing accident and broke a leg. He blamed me for breaking it on purpose because I wanted attention. Nobody in their right mind would purposely break a leg. Its not fun. He then proceeded to yell, I started crying and he then said I was a pussy and deserved to break more than a leg
Most recently, he took me to lunch with me, he started yelling and more in the restaurant (I was having an extremely bad day and had been crying). He said I was "fucking worthless and no better than dirt." and I "deserve to live with hobos"

These arent the only times. This happens quite often. My friend said it could be considered verbal abuse but i had never though it like that. So is it verbal abuse?
PS: sorry for it being so long.

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  • buttons

    Im so sorry... Please don't see this as normal and try to see someone for counseling, the sooner the better.

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  • InvadingPotatoLeader

    Falcon Punch him.

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    • Avant-Garde

      Captain Falcon Style.

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  • mystery7

    No it's not normal. Its verbal and emotional abuse. Get out of there as quick as you can. Can't tell how old you are or whetehr male female, but living in that situation must be terrible. Good luck.

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  • Terence_the_viking

    It's verbal abuse to the max you need to dragon punch that idiot right now.

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  • Avant-Garde

    It's verbal and emotional abuse. I've had to deal with it and it doesn't feel good. Does anyone else live with you in the house? Can you stay with a relative or a friend and alert them to the situation? You need to get away from him ASAP.

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  • dfsq

    Yes it's normal but that doesn't mean it's RIGHT. As a Chinese, I often get verbally and emotionally abused by my parents too.
    - When I can't solve a question, they call me a pig, idiot or useless
    - When I have problems and just need a listening ear (I'm not even asking for advice), they either say "don't tell me, it's none of my business" or ask "So what do you want me to do?"
    - If we are going out and I dress up, my father will say "No one wants to look at you anyway. You think you're pretty?"

    My parents favour my brother over me (you know how some traditional chinese parents favour their son)
    These examples are just the tip of the iceberg. Just know that you're  not the only one. I do all the housechores after school and my brother gets to spend all his time on his studies. I get whipped with leather belts and get thrown out of the house bleeding sometimes. It takes many years but you'll learn to be immune to it. I don't cry when such things happen anymore. 
    My advice is to talk to them as little as possible so they won't have the chance to find fault with you. The lesser you meet, the lesser the friction. Stay in your room when you're at home. Do not tell them any bad things that happens. It wouldn't help and just invites insults from them. They can't or rather, won't help you anyway. They just add on to your problems. Tell someone you trust. A teacher, boyfriend or friend. Or even IIN :)

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  • lufa

    your father is an asshole, go live on your on. Stop being his whipping boy.

    Or stand up to him-remind him of his flaws and failures. He's far from perfect, who is he to judge?

    Also stop crying-it's a sign of weakness. Some sadistic people get their jollies out of making others suffer-so if you cry, you make them happy.

    Get out from under his shadow, be your own man.

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  • fucksleep

    :'( awhhh
    stand up for yourself, even through tears!

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  • suckonthis9

    Yes, it's verbal (and psychological) abuse. The best way to resolve this problem, is to distance yourself from your father's abusive and negative personality (if you are mature enough to be on your own). If not, you should speak with a counselor about your father's abusive personality.

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  • jondoerandom

    I agree with Space Ghost -it's abuse, buddy (sorry, i don't know if you're a boy or a girl).

    Judging by your description, it's very serious. There might be other issues involved. However in any case you don't have to take it. I don't know how old you are and how much the child services can do in this case, since there is not physical violence or danger to your wellbeing, but you should at least talk about it with your mother.

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