Is it normal or is it a head game?

Dump her x 584389418.

Passive aggressive people are manipulative and impossible to deal with in a relationship. You just can't win.

She's Shit Testing you. Counter that by displaying you have options and she has a lower sexual market value then her competition. Or dump the bitch like an Alpha.

The reason I am still with her is that she has a WONDERFUL sense of touch. She is also quite fun and adventurous when I can get her out of the house. But after a year and a half, it's starting to change. My Alpha instincts sense that she is over-estimating her value because her sexual needs are saturated and she is getting tired from too much activity.

I don't like to be impulsive; due consideration is needed. CountessDouche seems to have hit the nail on the head. I think I'll return the key to her house in the mail, along with a nice note thanking her for all the fun and for the exquisitely naughty memories.

Thank you to everyone for the input.

I would echo everyone's opinion that you should straight up dump her, except there is an uncertainty about what you say about her. The identity crisis and cant take criticism, very familiar pattern. It's why I avoid or am very wary of women below a certain age, because not always but often they don't have the courage to be honest/direct about how they feel or how they think -- which is critical not just for a healthy r'ship but a person's sanity too. And being this way doesn't make them scum. I look at them being young. It's cool. Everyone goes through that age of figuring themselves out and having no confidence in themselves. I sure as hell wasn't the same at ~23 that I am now.

The big difference here is you are already in a r'ship with a person like this, so why not give her a chance at a fresh start? That is, if you like her at all or consider her worth it in any way. Lay all your cards out on the table i.e. be upfront about your "perspective" of her and your inability to tolerate a passive nature. If she gets her shit straight, and starts developing the courage to be direct - great. If not, you can up and walk away with no "what ifs" in your mind. Yes, you being upfront about everything means she wins at her "game." But there is more dignity in staying honest than stooping to someone's level.

Chances are low she'll change cause passive aggressiveness is often inherent, but at least knowing the error in her ways might help her in the future.

Why are you even with a person like this? It's only going to get worse for you, man. Leave her out on the curb.

I am confused.

Women always try to see where men stand.