Is it normal or am i jerk?

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I tend to have a Narcissistic qualities to me but I try to be a good person. Most of them are inward ways of dealing with stuff not outward ways. Generally I am use to a lot of people wanting to date me or be with me. However I despise when people touch me without permission even though I dont really always hate the fact that someone likes me.

I generally dont know what to do when people like me so I ignore the issue till they get bored. I have had partners before but I dont go out of my way to get other peoples attention.

I realize that I take pride in the fact that I am attractive no matter what I do. I really hate people touching me though. When no one is interested I tend to feel a little low on self and lately I been rejected very badly by people I care about(Such as family and friends). I think in general if I just had friends who liked me as a person I would be okay. Am I just a shallow ass?

Is it wrong to want people to pay attention you but not having to worry about them touching you in places every other minute or worried they are going to force you into bed. I dont usually mind people liking me though I just dont like when people are so forceful about it.

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  • omgcatz
    9 years ago

    Your description sounds like a narcissistic aspie.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Is that even possible? I thought Narcissism went with OCD.

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      • omgcatz
        9 years ago

        You can have all three.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    When you have a handlebar mustache people think they can just walk up and touch your face. You think hugs are bad try having someone's fingers on your face!. Everyday fucking day people want to take pictures with me, or feel my face. It's not you or me it's them. People need to calm the fuck down.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I dont have issues with hugs I have issues people grabbing me in places I dont want to be grabbed.

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      • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
        9 years ago

        Me too!. My face!. Keep your pimp hand strong and layeth the smacketh down.

        Seriously... smack the shit out them.

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  • Pandapants
    9 years ago

    Your narcissism is a little annoying (maybe because I have 0 confidence and I'm jealous) but you're perfectly within your rights to not want to be touched. Smack someone's hand the next time they touch you without permission.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I don't think that you're a jerk in fact I would say that I'm not entirely different myself. I'm half Latin and I grew up in the Deep South so I was raised in a culture where people tend to be physically affectionate, but there's a big difference between a hug or a kiss on the cheek from a family or friends and touchy feely creeps looking to cop a feel. One of my biggest pet peeves are those office creeps who used to come up behind me and subject me to an unrequested neck and shoulder massage. What's especially disturbing about those scenarios is that my neck and shoulders may very well be sore, and a massage might feel good, but I might not care to have that particular person touch me. Those ocassions tend to cause a particularly uncomfortable cognitive dissonance within my mind, emotions and body.

    Conversely, I remember when I was a young adult working in South Florida before I went away to college there was this very sweet older English woman who would always greet meet hello and goodbye with a hug, a kiss on the cheek, but she was a dear friend, and like a second mother to me. I think we all have right to decide who gets to touch us, and be in our personal space. Please don't ever feel guilty for wanting to have your personal boundaries respected. I must admit that if someone to whom I'm not attracted finds himself smitten with me I prefer that he keep that to himself. I've had my share of battles with self esteem, but I'd like to think that mine is not so low that I would crave attention or feel indebted to those who I find distasteful.

    Sadly one of the drawbacks of being an attractive person is that some people feel entitled to harass you. I'm not too happy about growing old, but I welcome the waning of such unwanted attention.

    Hang in there, beautiful.

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