Is it normal not to have even a single close male "friend" for a dude

I may have become a bit of a loner recently, but it wasn't always like this. When occasion demands, I can become the social type. Shy and withdrawn at other times.

It just seems to me that right now I don't have a single male friend. It's not like I'm that good with women either, but somehow I prefer them much more than the guys.

I'm 29 now. The dudes in my town are all assholes anyway. They constantly want to put you down and are in some sort of arms race in who has the bigger car, the hotter girl arm candy, better job etc. I'm tired of that constantly having to put up with dudes and their one upmanship.

I only prefer the company of girls now. Many of them are shallow, superficial and crazy but I have noticed that if you treat them nicely, they ALWAYS return the favor. Females, imo, happen to be fiercely loyal and protective as well. Yes, there are nasty bitches out there too, but with women, the deal is they are much less likely to fuck you over.

My childhood male buddies have turned into self-centered, back-biting assholes. At the workplace, it's the male coworkers and bosses who've always fucked me over, because they hate my guts. My career has always been helped by women, and again I get to witness the fiercely loyal side. A little bit of love and care, and kind words, they're there for you.

I hate the word called "bro". It's been so overused and there is no sincerity remaining. There was a bloke I was doing cocaine with in Panama on a vacation, he turned me over to the local drug enforcement, for I don't know why. I have experienced way too many betrayals by so-called "bros" to the point where I no longer want to trust them with my secrets, discuss my plans or get advice. Sure there are exceptions but really in my suburbia, all bros are pieces of shit, who'll rat you out.

Also the envy. Most "bros" become insanely jealous when they see you make out with a girl. All your close "bros" will try to fuck your girlfriend, sabotage your work, refuse to lift a finger when you need help. A bunch of snakes.

I've noticed ever since I decided to hang up on the "bros", my life has become much better. I get way more exclusive attention from females, spend a lot of time talking to them. I don't really like to discuss my problems and shit.

I have learned to my surprise that women don't really judge you by your status, not all of them...I don't drive a car, have money in the bank or smell great. All that PUA is bullshit.

Yes, there is a downside to women. They have superficial and shallow tastes, and the conversation becomes boring after a while. That's where some nice, decent men can elevate your spirit over a beer.

Not the "bros" though. The black dudes are the worst, not bring racist. They just try to scam you every time.

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Comments ( 4 )
  • Freedom_

    You seem rather shallow yourself. It seems you're not viewing men or women as the individual people they are, but rather as stepping stones in your life. And yet, you still drive no car and have no money in the bank....hmmm.....

    When you refuse to acknowledge people as sentient beings who have a past and a future exactly as they are with you in a present moment, and who have world inside their head and stories to share, rather than as a means to some benefit or inevitable detriment, then, yes you will have problems with them. There are ways to associate with people and still remain guarded, but you're just kind of being a ball sack about it and taking the path of least resistance.

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  • dytrog

    No answer. I didn't feel like reading a book.

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  • mysistersshadow

    tl;dr

    Can you summarize?

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  • riffraffy

    You're ten years behind where you want to be, socially. Getting frustrated over word usages like 'bro', crying about people being assholes and using snake analogies...it's like you never graduated highschool.

    I've got two books for you, but it's up to you to read them:
    "No More Mr. Nice Guy", Robert Glover
    "How to Win Friends and Influence People", Dale Carnegie

    They will change how you perceive fellow men, relationships, and yourself.

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