Is it normal not completely in control of my own thoughts/feelings

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I have limited social interaction nowadays but i find that whenever i am texting a girl or talking to people in public, i end up saying or doing things that i regret or that are somewhat counter to my real intentions. For example i will be thinking all the time in my own head how i intend to act around girls but then as soon as i start texting or talking to them i start going in a different direction and i end up saying things that aren't really what i think or feel. Within seconds and minutes even, I hate myself for not being myself. Basically i am not being completely true to myself. So it feels like i am not 100% in control of myself.

I'm not a liar and i don't have turetts or any other condition where i lack total control over my behavior, but it seems that i am very rarely true to myself and my identity and what i really believe. The way that i end up representing myself to others is almost everything EXCEPT who i really am deep down. This is very frustrating for me and i am not sure what it is.

Is it just anxiety, depresssion, low self esteem or identity issues etc .., ?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    All of the above. You're trying to too hard to fit or be what you think the person wants you to be. It works for others but it can't be worth it. I'm getting pretty good at it myself and I hate it just the same. You need to be stop being afraid of being rejected and be who you are deep down.

    I know it's hard. I talked to a therapist about it and we both think it's because I didn't get the support I needed growing up. I was very passionate and fun loving person and I wasn't abused but I wasn't loved for who I was so I built a personality out of what I thought others wanted or just hid away in order to be accepted.

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    • flyingnostalgia
      8 years ago

      Poor soul....there there.

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        I do it for you guys... and a little for me.

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  • FANTABULOUS
    8 years ago

    If your heart tells you about something you really wish to have in your life...follow your heart and start ignoring stupid ideas that are crossing your mind. If you really want to socialize with people then do it, try very hard not to let your silly behaviour ruin that for you.

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  • LittleGirlBrutallySodomized
    8 years ago

    You need to grow some balls and start cold approach women. At the grocery store for example, the second you hesitate you'll freeze up that's why the first thing that'll come out of you mouth is jibberish but the woman will see the balls you hold and alone, find this attractive. Start lifting this will also help your game.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Ok, i'll start as soon as you do the same

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      • LittleGirlBrutallySodomized
        8 years ago

        I lift and have a girlfriend but she's becoming too lazy and not doing what she's told, a sure-fire sign she's getting dumped in a few days.

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  • Mysteriousgirl1
    8 years ago

    I think you sound normal to me, even like me. I am never who I truly want to be. I put an act on daily

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