Is it normal not being able to connect?

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I don't connect with people around me. I want to, desperately. In high school I was somewhat popular. Im 23 now, have been out of school for 6 years. Im currently in college. The six years ive been out of high school have been traumatic, so I don't know if that has anything to do with this feeling.

When someone is talking to me, I just don't have the words. I want to respond, I want to connect, I understand what they are saying, but I usually just agree or say something general, just to respond. I'm more alone than I have ever been in my life.

I live alone and feel more alone when im at school or work when Im surrounded by people. I cant connect with any of them. Its like I'm stuck in my head. Everyone around me is doing there thing, going along in life, while im just trying to catch up. I don't know if any of this makes sense, but I'm lonely and desperate to connect with those around me. Help?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    I'm with you :/

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  • roxandham
    8 years ago

    I also have this issue, I'm 20. I just don't enjoy human beings in general. We're all scum bags so I keep to myself. Some find it sad, I don't mind anymore

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  • shuttuppnerddplz
    8 years ago

    I think....you need someone to love and to b loved right now, It can be your college friends or family. I actually and finally have found someone to love in college life, which is my club members. Try to find someone whos valuable to you you're gonna do your best to fit in your people.

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  • GG19
    8 years ago

    Idk if.its normal but for me i have the same issue I try talki.g to people and get ignored or shy (esspacaily guys in person) but My big bro.helps amd my therapy if u ever wana talk just reply to this message and we can talk.

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  • Stanisit
    5 years ago

    Im struggling with this, I used to connect with so many of my friends but now i feel distant and withdrawn. If theres a party now i’ll never hear of it or get any messages back to me

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  • wigz
    8 years ago

    Some people are natural charmers but really everyone else is in a similar boat as you it's just that many of them have found ways to fit in. They practice, read books, get tips, copy how others act. Things like that. For most people it takes real effort and practice to be good at socializing.

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