Is it normal no sex

So this is a very similar post to another recent one by someone else but I wanted to share my thougts anonymously so I had to make my own post.

Like the other user my SO and I have hit a patch of extended periods of little-to-no sex. I'm 35 and my wife is 28 and we have 2 small children, which is part of the reason we dont have much sex.

We probably have sex once a month or so. I feel like we have many opportunities, after the kids go to bed or on weekends. But most of the time when I'm in the mood it seems like she isn't. She has spoken to a therapist who even told her that we should be having more sex and that it's important to our relationship but that doesn't seem to motivate her.

I'm certain she loves me just as much as the day we got married and there are no other issues, I just honestly think that she has a very low sex drive.

Now, based on the comments in the other thread I do agree that this is a problem, however there were a few comments about how the male in the relationship will end up cheating if this goes on for too long and I want to say that at least in our situation I would never do that.

Yes I crave intimacy with her pretty much 24/7 but just because she is going through some sort of (hopefully) temporary spell of non-horniness that doesn't immediately mean I have to seek it elsewhere.

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  • PaulThePolarBear

    Some people just dont like sex

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  • 1ne8ight7even

    The only time it's normal to not have sex is when she's bleeding. When she's not you should be giving it to her every morning and night. If you don't she might get bored and start looking for another stump to hump.

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  • trexagireve

    If i let my wife a week without sex she is extremely mad at me

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  • SwickDinging

    Be more assertive. When the kids have gone to bed grab her and fuck her. If she pushes you off and says that she isn't in the mood then talk about it right then and there - this is what the therapist said we should do, when are you in the mood, what am I doing wrong etc... All the difficult questions.

    Another alternative, if you guys are communicating openly about this a lot, is to schedule sex. And yes, I'm talking about "does 8pm on Tuesday night work for you honey?". I know it sounds extremely boring but when you've got two young kids it takes over everything and you sometimes need to do this.

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  • JustinAnderson

    Increase the time of Foreplay ; ask her what she likes in sex . Go according to her .
    Lick her vagina like a boss ... eat her out .

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  • Does a plumber fix his own pipes. Cause sooner or later...

    I would want to know if a plumber fixes his own pipes.....

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    • mauzi

      speaking of which I wonder what happened to that guy who kept posting about being sexually attracted to mario. it was you wasnt it !? were due for some more of those hot fanfics on here

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      • No, Mario not my type. I want to hit that green dinosaur looking thing from Bubble Bobble..

        Be honest! How many glasses is that now?

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        • mauzi

          Apparently, not enough to wanna fuk the bubble bobble dinos. they're lookin thicc tho, i will give you that..hmmmm

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          • Good man!

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    Have you tried getting your clit flicking game on point? If you master that button she will like it. Or even tell her to masturbate while you lay with her. Learn how to flick the clit good and buy a little vibrator wand and help her that way. Most girls dont cum by just vaginal penetration. They need their clit pleased.

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    • Trust me, when we do have sex she is never left in the dust. I make her cum several times before we even focus on me. And she's a squirter so let me tell you she isn't faking it.

      When we do have sex it's great. It just seems that, unlike me, she doesn't get horny enough to even have the thought of sex enter her head except for the first few days after her period. It's like the change in hormones or simply the fact that she can't have sex while on her period makes her want it when her period is over. Then she wants it bad and I rock her world and then she's good for another several weeks.

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

        Ive been there too tho. Sometimes when we are laying in bed ill start rubbing on her legs and then start messing with her clit. If she gets horney she'll open her legs or something. If not ill go spank it in the other room!

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    I agree with you, saying that the man will definitely cheat after a while is basically just saying that all men are assholes. That's not to say that it couldn't end the relationship, but the man could do the right thing and break it off instead of cheating.

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