Is it normal my wife wants to control when i cum

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My wife has always told me I should not masturbate and should save myself for when we have sex together. I was always fine with that and we would make love 2 or 3 times a week. Recently though when we have sex she wants me to bring her to orgasm orally or with my hands but afterwards won't make love. She says she wants a lot more sex but it should be about me making her cum. She said I should limit myself to once or twice a month and then only if I have fulfilled my duty to make her cum at least 9 or 10 times a week. I think this is unfair, I enjoy making her cum but I want something out of it as well at least every few days, but she says I perform so much better when I haven't cum for a while. She refuses to discuss the matter any further but always says if I love her I will stop making such a fuss and put her feelings first.

Am I being unreasonable expecting to have regular sex? 0
Should I forget about what I want and concentrate on making her happy? 7
Is my wife being unreasonable and selfish? 18
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  • Nickvey
    5 years ago

    she needs an ass fucking real bad.

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    • CozmoWank
      5 years ago

      9 or 10 times a week.

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  • morganfairchild
    5 years ago

    I husband’s job is to satisfy his wife as often as she wants but never expect pleasure from her. If she wants to please you, she will, but if she never does, you should still always please her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Why? If I am expected to give her pleasure why should she not do the same for me. I think she has the same view as you, but I don't understand why you women think that is ok.

      We have always had a good sex life and I have never been selfish. I always made sure she has plenty of attention and orgasms but recently she has got this new idea about restricting my sexual pleasure whilst increasing her own by 5 or 6 times. We have not had full sex now for nearly 2 weeks and I have not cum in all that time, yet every night I have given her at least one orgasm, and sometimes 2 or 3. She has also woken me up early and had me bring her to orgasm in the morning on about 4 or 5 occasions in that time. On Sunday we spent the afternoon with me giving her a message and several orgasms, she then tied my hands and teased me for about an hour but never let me cum. Afterwards she told me I need to wait until next weekend, then provided I am good all week we will make love. Please explain why some women (including my wife) think this is acceptable behaviour!

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  • Maid_in_Pink
    5 years ago

    My first question is this:

    Is she right? Do you perform better and take care of her needs more when you haven't cum?

    If the answer to that is Yes then I think you should probably have a talk with her. It probably isn't about being dominated or controlled but more about her being able to orgasm.

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Not normal. You should be able to have your pleasure ad well. You said you always be sure to get her off. A lot of guys are selfish and leave their partner in a lurch. Kudos!!!

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  • curious-bunny
    5 years ago

    Get a cock ring and some numbing gel. Put em on, that will take care of not lasting long enough and you can focus more and giving her a good dicking

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    • Unimportant
      5 years ago

      I would assume a numbing gel would numb your dick? Meaning it wouldn't feel as much pleasure anymore? Never used it before.

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      • curious-bunny
        5 years ago

        Yup! It's moire of a spray to be honest but yea sex shops sell it, just ask for a nujmbing agent for men, don't be embarrassed my friend works at one and gets that alll the time. Trust me they don't care. They just want to provide a good service to you. They have more enthusiasm for it cause they get commission.

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        • Unimportant
          5 years ago

          Nah, I'm not interested.
          I want to feel pleasure during sex, I don't want my dick to feel numb.

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          • curious-bunny
            5 years ago

            It won't make it feel numb. It just numbs out a little so you last longer. Kind of like a cock ring. You still feel all the pleasure just cute off a little flow or sonething so you last longer. All in all it means more pleasure for both of you

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You are being dominated and on one of the surest ways to cuckoldry, my opinion. I'd divorce if I was you.

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