Is it normal my wife doesn't want our son to have a life.

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Ok, this may be a rather complex and nuanced issue.

I am concerned that my wife (the mother of our 13 year old son) will end up damaging our son. At the very least she's destroying his social life. She claims she is just protecting him.

She has decided, against my opinion and input, that our son will not be allowed to date or have a girlfriend, now or ever. Or even be allowed to take part in any situation where any type of romantic interaction among his peers might be happening. No school sponsored dances, no parties, no mixed groups just getting together for movies, etc.

She maintains that he should have no interest in girls, should concentrate on studies and achievements and take no chances at all of being distracted from goals by the possibility of a relationship, which would surely ruin his life.

Up till our son hit puberty and entered middle school, there was no indication that this would take place. His numerous friends, boys as well as girls, were always welcome in our house. At least until the lot of them hit puberty and started to notice that the opposite gender was potentially interesting.

His best buddy from the age of 5 is a girl that lives 4 houses down from us. She was always in our house and our son was a fixture in hers. They walked to school together every day for years. Then, this fall my wife notices they're walking to school holding hands. And becomes totally unhinged, calls the poor girl an "evil skank" to her face, forbids our son any contact with her. Which, by the way, is a near impossibility considering the size of the town we live in, the school system and the proximity.

It took quite a while to smooth things over, especially with the girls parents, who really like our son and practically think of him as family. They weren't the least bit surprised when their daughter and he "upgraded" their relationship.

Our son appears, outwardly at least, to accept that he can't have a relationship with this girl or anyone else. Any kind of relationship. Two other times, when young ladies expressed even a mild interest, "You know....your son is really cute" type of stuff, it got rather ugly. One girl got literally thrown out of our house, where she was rehearsing a music duet as part of a class.

So far she's pulled him from music classes (too many girls), swim team (girls in swimsuits, unacceptable!) and Lacrosse (cheerleaders).

My wife is now suggesting sending him to a boy's only boarding school.

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  • Sillygoose
    11 years ago | pl

    Psychiatrist. Your wife. Now.

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  • 1776
    11 years ago

    This is 100% not normal. Your son is a person. Your wife needs to stop controling everything and let him live his life. This is insane! I feel so bad for him. Having a parent like this, I promess you, this poor boy is going to end up HATING his mother. Its psychology. I think your wife has obviously a big problem. There is a difference between loving and protecting our child / controlling and trap him. You better act before its too late. Its all about the relationship you two wanna have with him..

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I strongly disagree with you wife's opinion.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    I would hypothesise that your wife is insecure about having another woman to rival her in your son's life, hence why she lashes out at any girl he might come into contact with. She's jealous and over-protective. She's got a serious problem, and your son will probably have a serious social problem when he's older unless you can do something about it. It's not normal at all.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't say 100% abnormal, but definetly the majority or it being abnormal and wrong.
    I think she is trying to make him more logical and able to secure a future for himself by education instead of making him consumed by social events, etc. The evil skank statement was uncalled for and not right.
    I personally think what she is trying to do is right, but how she is doing it is wrong. I think too many children are being raised to be social rather than raised to secure their future.
    The all boy school is probably the best part and good part of her idea that seems reasonable, but the rest is just quite abnormal.

    I think she has a problem that needs diagnosed.

    I think the all boy school is something that you should both agree on, it is something that is reasonable and not crazy, and it goes by her wishes as a mother aswell to say what she wants for her child, just like it is your right to do the same. Although, you really need to step up about the rest of this, you can't let her continue doing it, otherwise your child will grow up being socially awkward, which can be bad and set back his education.

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  • jondoerandom
    11 years ago

    Oh, man... I'm sorry to say this, but this is fucked up.

    Yes, there are plenty of great men of science that decided to practice celibacy and were completely asexual througout their lives (Like Nicola Tesla), claiming that romance and sex just disrupts their work. Fair enough -it was their choice. Your kid has to make his own choice. If he wants to grow up and acoid women -it's cool. If he wants to score with everything that has 2 legs and a vagina -it's normal too. take your wife to counselling!

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  • alv1592
    11 years ago

    I agree with the previous comments, it doesn't sound normal at all. And the part where she called that little girl an "evil skank" was just crazy.

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  • UnrecognizableMan
    11 years ago

    I think your wife needs some rough cock action to sort her out!

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    • coolio75650932
      11 years ago | pl

      um sir can you come a bit closer i cant recognize you

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  • trollx1
    11 years ago

    kick her ass

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  • kimmie43
    11 years ago

    what does she want? A gay son

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  • Musician
    11 years ago

    I hate to say it. but you need to divorce this woman and obtain full custody of your son. He needs to have a real childhood!

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  • Aliifreak
    11 years ago

    Excuse me, but your wife is a jealous freak.

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  • fucksleep
    11 years ago

    I once had a boyfriend with a mother like this aha, nearly smacked her face off, watch out for your wife as well..

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Not normal at all. Make her see a therapist! She is ruining his life!

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  • Squambly
    11 years ago

    I think you have a talk with her. I suggest you take her to a therapist. All work and no play is going to take a great toll on your son. He'll become stressed. He needs a social life or he needs to have some kind of fun.

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  • Riddler
    10 years ago

    Maybe she has the Oedipus complex in reverse. maybe she is in love with your son and does not like the idea of competition from other women. I think if you can, try to put in a report and get her determined to be an unfit parent. Than she wont be able to ever see the child again.

    The calling a girl you have all known since she was 5 a skank and cutting off your son completely sounds like control issues. She wants to know she has complete control over your son and she does not want the real world threatening it. Sounds extremely possessive.

    If things work out her way he will end up 40 with a successful job but still relying on her to cook, clean and take care of him and unable to have contact with any friends or people he might date. I don't think she is using restrictions to help your son. I think they are simply means to control him.

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  • 100Spoon
    10 years ago

    Stand up to your bitch wife

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    i say divorce or run away witn your son or kill her (your choise)
    but you could alwas have your son start an IIN account and tell me his user so i cab talk with him and help him fix his problem (was a therapist once yes i had alot of jobs

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  • trollx1
    11 years ago

    divorce asap she is a physco bitch let's see how she likes it when you leave her ass

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  • thebeatlesfanman1
    11 years ago

    stop her right now for gods sake if you want a straight son!

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Don't let her!
    She's gonna force him to turn gay!

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  • sega31098
    11 years ago

    Get her a therapist.

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