Is it normal my sister won't forgive me after 20 years?

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20 years ago, I slept with my sister's boyfriend. I know it was wrong and I am truly sorry for it. I was young and jealous of always being the "ugly" sister, so I seduced him and I felt awful about it almost immediately afterwards.

I have been trying to convey to her just how sorry I am for the past 20 years and nothing seems to have worked. We are both married and have kids and living completely separate lives and she refuses to even acknowledge my existence :(

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    She's probably afraid you'll get intimate with her husband.

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  • RearedPyro
    9 years ago

    Maybe she's just the kind to hold a grudge..

    I haven't made contact with my brother since he moved out about 5 years ago. The only time I've had any kind of contact with him is when the family meets up with him and I don't know about it until i'm there. But my brother has done a lot worse to deserve it too.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Have you spoken fully about what happened?
    Tbh it is a truly awful thing to do and if my sister did that to me I don't know if I could ever trust or talk to her again. Your siblings are meant to be the closest people to you, the people you grow up with and share everything with and you betrayed that.
    What id do is try and talk to her and tell her how you felt and why you did it ect get it all out, if she still can't forgive you after 20 years then what else can you do?

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    You need closure. You could send a card that says, "I can accept that you will never talk to me again because what I did was terrible. In return, I hope you can accept that I will forever feel sorry about my mistake."

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  • randypete
    9 years ago

    are u a guy

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