Is it normal my roommate's relationship?

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I'm a freshman in college and I've been wondering if it is normal for my roommates girlfriend, who does not go to school here, to drive an hour from her town to campus and live with us in our small, two-person dorm room. For example, one week she came up for the weekend left sunday came back monday, left friday, came back the sameday, and stayed the weekend. This was how it was for many weeks until I finally confronted my roommate about it, now she's only supposed to come up weekends, but she still comes up for a few extra days... When she's over here, they are constantly having sex when ever I leave the room. As of today, at least according to their facebook, they've been dating just less than half a year. She also buys him brand new video games and other things, so pretty expensive gifts in my opinion. I've never been in a serious relationship, but their's just doesn't seem normal to me.

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  • bonah
    11 years ago

    in a dorm no way she doesnt pay for the dorm kick tell the dorm mom to get you a new dorm mate you are not a door mat

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you're just being weird about this because you don't know how relationships work. Unless my roomate's guests were actually keeping me awake or being a bother to me, I would *never* tell someone I live with they can't have their SO come over.

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    • Moonbow
      11 years ago

      Why should he have to be made to feel uncomfortable in his own room? He says they have sex every time he leaves the room, so you know they're just sitting around waiting for him to leave all the time. He should have requested a new roommate when this foolishness first started.

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        What do you expect a couple to do when they get alone time? If they were kicking him out to have sex that would be one thing but it doesn't sound like that's the case. I mean, all couples do it, but you don't think about it everytime you hang out with them. It's awkward if you make it awkward.

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    • BeautyBodyBrains
      11 years ago

      Or eating allllllll the food!

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      • shade_ilmaendu
        11 years ago

        Ugh, I had a roomate who used to do that. -.- Bitch could eat a whole box of oreos in a day if you let her.

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        • BeautyBodyBrains
          11 years ago

          LMFAO!

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    You are entitle to your share of the dorm, I would speak to someone who is in charge of the dorms to resolve this issue.

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  • iezegrim
    11 years ago

    Their relationship is totally normal but the way they treat you is TOTALLY INCONSIDERATE. The girlfriend doesn't pay to live in that room BUT YOU DO!!! Kick her out.

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  • Moonbow
    11 years ago

    How are you supposed to study with three people in a college dorm room? You must feel "very" unconfortable! You need to have a talk with your roommate about this. Many people are uncomfortable sharing a room with a member of the opposite sex and you shouldn't have to. Suggest that instead of the girl driving to visit your roommate, that he go to visit her for the weekend. If he doesn't have a car, he can always take the train or bus - or she can come pick him up. If you can't settle things between you, request a different roommate.

    But to answer your question regarding whether or not this is a "normal" relationship. No it is NOT! She's doing all the giving and he's doing all the taking and that isn't normal.

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    It must be good sex.

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  • mysterymen3000
    11 years ago

    Maybe stop focusing on their relationship and getting one of your own?

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  • CollegeIsNotAsAwesomeAsIImagin
    11 years ago

    Dude i would totally hide a camera and share the video on worldstarzhiphop xD

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Maybe you can switch with another person who has the same problems as you? Then the two couples can have their foursomes, and you can have a normal dorm room with the other person. I doubt you're the only one with this issue

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  • ck123
    11 years ago

    I think it's annoying when a roommates gf/bf is constantly over. Their relationship seems normal, but I agree they are being totally inconsiderate. And I can only imagine how frustrating it is being that you're in a small dorm room! Talk to your roommate again and tell him that the space is too small for her to always be over, and it makes you uncomfortable. Tell him that if he can't respect you, that you'll say something to the RA. But give them a chance to change the behavior.... maybe she could spend some of that video game money on a hotel room!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Just wait till you get a girl then you will see what it feels like when your room mate doesn't approve.

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  • BeautyBodyBrains
    11 years ago

    If I were getting gifts, i'd let her stay too! Maybe if you are nice to her she will buy you shit too... Or get you a girl and be equally annoying, preferably more, just to show them how it feels... Or maybe you're gay and dont know it yet. Why does it matter how long they've been together, just asking...?

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Leave them to it, don't be a twot blocker.

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