Is it normal my own mother stalks me?

This may sound like crazy advice, but the first thing you should do is try to understand her concerns. If they are invalid, you can help her understand why. If they are valid, she can make you understand why she feels like she does. Try to deal with it positively.

my mother has always ruined my life. Any where I work she will come in and make a scene, and get me fired.
Every where I have lived int he last 5-6 years, she has stalked me,opened the doors like it is her own house.
She calls me over 20x a day.
For example she saw me yesterday, and she will call me the next day -consecutively 20x in a row.
She shows up at my friend's,my bf's apt. and my own apartment, and has attempted to open every single door and walk in as if it her own home.
My neighbor's are getting very upset, and have stated that they will call the police if she comes around trying to open their doors again.
My mom knows nobody, she works 3x a week as a elderly caretaker. She has no life of her own.
She has blamed me on the failure in my relationship with my (now x) husband. She truly expects me to stay in an abusive relationship and let my daughter and self to be abused. She has screamed this to my face in front of my siblings,aunts and uncles. Everyone in my family thinks she is a psycho nut. Everyone in my family has also told her to back off and let me be my own person.

when ever things are good between my father and I she continues to try to destroy that relationship I have with him, so that I can no longer receieve any financial assistance from him. She gets jealous(I know it sounds dumb but she really does)

my mom is a psycho nut case. She really is dumb.
I am not saying that out of madness or anger.
seriously, my brother,2 sisters, and I have showed our mother how to burn a cd on the computer....over 200x. I say this with out exageration. She still doesn't know how to burn a cd, put the photos from the digital camera onto the computer, attach photos to her emails....we have showed her how to do these things over 200x since I was 14 years old. She still says "I don't know how to do it!" We are all at the point of just walking away or leaving the house when she demands us to show her how to do it again.

I am going to be changing my number shportly(in 3 weeks)
I texted her the other day telling her "I am a mother, and an adult. You need to stop what your doing, and realize that I have my own life. I am not sitting here on my hands and knees for you to show up. What your doing is called harassing and stalking me. Stop showing up at my apartment, stop showing up at my friend's apartment, and STOP trying to open people's doors! Somebody is going to call the police on you and it won't be me! STOP IT! I am going through a divorce, and your making this 200x more difficult for me to deal with it!
I am trying to be nice to you by telling you this. "

she calls me and texts me 2 hours later acting as if nothing happened. I didn't answer her calls at all. I did text her one last time "FYI ___(my daughter's name here) and I are doing just fine! You don't need to show up stalking me everywhere! STOP IT. Just don't call me or talk to me for a while."

she keeps calling me and texting me acting like nothing happened.

PSYCHO NUT !

i hate my whole fucking family

Okay I was 25 when I wrote this

I am now 28 years old going on 29 years this coming May.
Do you know what my mother did a week ago?
She came to my new house. with out calling me or telling me.
I had a nice couch on my patio so that I could sit outside my front door and read a book while my cat and dog also enjoy being outside with me.
She came unannounced and took the couch which my father gave me as a gift.

She also wants to take 20 other furniture I have that was a gift from my father.
Everything my father gives to me and my daughter, my mother wants to steal it.
I told her she isn't allowed to my house with out calling me.

She hasn't stopped by once on her own just to see how I am doing.
She only came one week ago when my dad came to fix my broken refrigerator. then she came on Monday with my father to bring my daughter to her first day of school at Challenger school. (private school)
a week ago when she came, she tried to clean my house and go through my thing. I had to get physical and push her out of my bedroom. I told her to stop acting like a servant. my exact words to her " MOM STOP THIS NONSENSE! You are my mother! You are not my servant or cleaning person! You came over to see me not to clean my house and go through my things! You need to sit down, calm down and relax!"

I physically pushed her out of my bedroom door to the living room.

Last time she came to my old apartment, I was leaving to go out with friends. a few months back. I was wearing a skirt above my knees and tang top with a jean jacket. I kicked her out physically and said you are no longer welcomed to my home. because she was calling me names(foul names) because I was wearing a short skirt, and tang top. to her dressing normal like that means your a prostitute and whore.

I am telling you all I am 28 yrs old now. I am too old for this shit.
I have a 5 year old daughter to raise on my own.
I don't have time for her bs antics.
I made sure to let her know a few months back.
She knows if she ever ever calls me a whore again I will never speak to her again, and she will never see her grand daughter again.

She just doesn't come over ever.
Unless my dad is with her.
She complains to my dad and brother about my attitude towards her.
"my daughter is always mad at me!" my dad and brother tell her "stop being so stupid. Do you ever look at the way you treat her? She has every reason and right to be angry with you."

Use the law get a restraining order on her theres a privacy act law read into it. distant yourself from her. tell her straight out how you feel. if she doesnt want to change it then cut off any ties to her. Its only right for your mental stability. Im going to do the same.

They sound controlling and like they have a problem with you having a life of your own.
The closest I've ever been to being stalked was from my art teacher. Oh! trust me, that woman tried to get all of my information! She's was emotionally abusive too and once repeatedly punched me in the arm! I stopped taking classes and luckily haven't seen her since. By the the time I admitted her actions, a few months later, I was told it was too late to try to charge her!!!!

Please call the police and get as many restraining orders as need be! This is by no means normal! Don't wait, act now! It could get so much worse. I'm glad you have support from your BF's family and I'm sure they could help you take legal action against her.

and wut i mean by sits outside in a car day and night, like she sits day an night in front uv ur house

where does the stalking come in? she's only a stalker if she secretly follows u everywhere u go, take pics of u at watever your doing, sits outside (in a car) every day and night, looks through ur windows at night

Call the police

Move to a gated community!!

ps: it is impossible to drag her to the doctors. She will refuse to go and seek help. My grandmother who passed away when I was around 16 yrs old, had mental illnesses such as Alziemehrs and i think also dimentia, and some other things(Unsure of the exact names of the illnesses) but she couldn't talk anymore, all she could do is point at something she wanted and cry her brains out.
She eventually passed away from sickness and old age(age 88 yrs old)

sound good but way to much to read

your 25 she still thinks you are a child, i know it sounds bizzare, im 23 and my mum still treats me like a boy, i think its once you reach your late 20's or 30's then she will treat you like a adult