Is it normal my new boyfriend is content with dry humping my butt?

He calls it hotdogging. I lay on my stomach or get on all fours and he grinds his thing in between my butt cheeks until he cums. Once in awhile I'll get on top, facing away, and we do the same thing. This started as a compromise when I wasn't ready to go all the way, but since we started doing this he hasn't tried to go any further or even brought it up. I'm not complaining by any means, I'm just surprised...is it normal for a boy to be okay with just dry humping?

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77% Normal
Based on 56 votes (43 yes)
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Comments ( 47 )
  • Tealights

    Tell him you're ready to have actual sex.

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    • megadriver

      This, a bit of a tease is hot, but no contact is no fun XD

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    • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

      Lol right

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    • Licklori

      I love my girlfriend butt so much I need to be close to her ass all the time

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  • You set your limits and boundaries and he respects them... there’s a problem here??

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    • ...what's the problem with that?

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      • I’m asking you why you think that’s a problem.

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        • Why would I have a problem with that though?

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  • jethro

    Yes it's normal because he is getting it somewhere else.

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  • FeralDefiance

    Yeah, that's normal as hell. You guys found a way to do sexy things you're both comfortable doing, and that's that. I don't get where some of these comments are coming from with the "he's gonna go somewhere else" shit.

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  • raisinbran

    Stop wiping.

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  • Fugazi,again

    Normal as fook

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  • candylady

    Seems pretty normal to me. You both found something you both like and it may not be everything that he wants but clearly he still gets quite a bit of pleasure out of it. He might be waiting for some kind of sign that you're willing to go further before he tries again.

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    • technoire

      I agree!

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  • ellnell

    Have you made it known to him somehow that you are ready for more now, if you are? If you're not I don't see the issue here, he's respecting your boundries.

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  • Resurgam53

    You take what you can get!

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    You broke him

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  • Mcochik

    Yes this is normal not wanting sex at all isn’t. But I love hotdogging the best is when it’s not sliding well so you put cheeky full underwear on and grind against that I once hit my girl in the back of the head with my load

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  • James928w

    Yes it’s normal, I’m a guy and I love humping my girlfriend. When she’s on her period and can’t have sex I usually just hump her leg or ass and cum.

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  • Earlover_Earlover

    If you are teenagers, then there is nothing abnormal.

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  • Iszzy123

    I say turn it up a notch and Gas his hotdog then it will be a chilly dog

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  • Fuckmeforcashdaddy

    Like is too short to compromise about sex. Leave him honey and find you someone you wanna sleep with. My ex did some similar shit and now he’s happily married and I’m happily having great sex. Seriously be happy that’s what life is about.

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  • RandomNumbers

    You said you didn't not wanted to have sex. He is just being happy with what you have given him. It's actually kind of wise of him. If you feel ready for more, go tell him

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  • Iszzy123

    So he humps you till he cul but do you even get off from this?

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  • dimwitted

    You sound childish. You couldn't even bring yourself to say his "dick" or "cock" or even "penis" you said "thing".

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    • Maid_in_Pink

      I'm assuming a lot of the anonymous posters here are probably teenagers or college students trying to get some sort of guidance since most school's sexual educations programs are laughable at best and parents don't parent anymore. They may talk about birth control or abstinence but any kind of information about actual sex or sexual relationships most people are still left guessing about them.

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  • Iszzy123

    Idk I haven’t heard mAny story’s like this

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  • CDmale4fem

    I think he's fantasizing that you are a guy. Unless he just can't get it up and keep it up.

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  • XYXY

    If you both enjoy what you’re doing then don’t worry about it. If you’re getting bored with it and want to do other stuff then tell him. If you’re still not ready for intercourse tell him you want him to give you oral or bring you to orgasm with his fingers

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  • leggs91200

    Hot dogging is the actual word for that act.

    Maybe he doesn't really want anything more like penetration. If he wanted more, he would have said after a time. Even so, who's idea was it to hot dog? I would bet it was his.

    Here is the deal on that -
    This is probably what he wanted anyways but was worried you might find it strange. So then when you were not ready for actual sex, he brought it up figuring it was something where he got his wish while respecting yours.

    Reasons someone might like that or just rubbing it other places - no pregnancy, less awkward than penetration (especially anal), and some just have fixations for doing things other than real intercourse. Like me, I would rather a woman sit on my face while I masturbate rather than fuck. I am just not wired for penetration.

    Just ask him if he actually prefers hot dogging rather than intercourse. Of course be polite about it, don;t treat it like it's weird.

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    • d0esnormalmatter

      That's really, really weird bro. I'm glad I'm wired for penetration I guess.

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      • leggs91200

        would you mind not calling me bro? I know you cannot stand transgenders but you are just making yourself look like an ass. I know that is probably your greatest skill but come on.

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        • d0esnormalmatter

          I call women bro as well

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          • leggs91200

            Alright.

            On your sexcapades though, just make sure and cover up. Having a kid tends to cramp one's style.

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            • d0esnormalmatter

              What are you tryna say? I do cover up my political and religious beliefs in any and all scenarios with women. If they bring it up, I agree with them on what they say the believe if I actually agree, and if I disagree I say nothing.

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    • Dry humping was my idea, and we both agreed that that was our preferred position and before long it was the only way we did it. I don't plan on asking him as I don't want to put the idea of intercourse in his head if it's not there or give him an easy way to bring it up, I was just looking for other people's thoughts, so the insight on why people like that was helpful.

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      • XYXY

        So what you’re saying is your both happy doing what you do. In that case carry on and why give a fuck what anybody else does or doesn’t think. Having said that my opinion is you should go for full intercourse and make sure he works at giving you an orgasm. Why should he have all the fun

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  • Jennifer21

    Go ahead and give it to him or he WILL go somewhere else! “If you can’t get it from the one you love, get it from the one you’re with!”

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    • megadriver

      I'll have to agree with you on this one... Grinding against her can only do so much... Sooner or later, we gotta make it happen, or just split and search for that special someone elsewhere.

      If I had to do that, I'd just get rock hard and bummed we didn't go to the next step XD

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      • SkullsNRoses

        In the UK “I got bummed” means you received anal sex. It took me a second to understanding what you were saying here...

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

        Yup

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  • controversy

    yes, that is normal.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Would you rather deal with him trying to pressure you into sex when you aren't ready yet?

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    • ...why would I possibly want that?

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    Not normal at all. I have no idea how people enjoy that but whatever. I'm not gonna tell ya'll how to have sex unless you ask so if you both enjoy it fine. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

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