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My mums husband (my step dad), blocked my mum on Facebook when they were going through a rough patch. The crazy thing is though, that he as to now still has his ex wife as a Facebook friend but my mother is still blocked !! Is this normal behavior? Thoughts please!?
You have always struck me as wise :) What are your thoughts as to how my mother should confront/ bring this up to him...?
Word of note- He tends to easily blow up when confronted about anything!
In that case it wouldn't be smart to approach the issue as a confrontation in the first place. How about something which starts off with "I've been wondering why I'm still blocked on your facebook but X isn't?"
That's not accusing him of anything and who knows, maybe he's just not got around to unblocking her? On the other hand, it could be manipulative.
One more question- Is it normal to put a kiss (x) at the end of a text he sent his ex a while back? Take into consideration that he says he hates her guts and calls his ex a bitch!! Seems contradictory don't u think..??
Ooooh yeah, definitely suspicious I reckon, not just contradictory. I wouldn't be believing a word he said either verbally or via his keyboard: he's up to something, which would make him even more likely to explode if he's confronted.
If I were involved with him, I'd either get rid of him or quietly observe what he's up to for a while and then decide what to do about it.
Hmm thanks for your words of wisdom! These were her thoughts all the way but she just needed reassurance I guess! Another thing , mum wants to say to u to get your opinion- Is when they were in the office to obtain the license to get married, he rang his ex to find out some information that was needed. My mom was standing fairly close to him, and it was frustrating applying for the certificate. When his ex answered her phone, he said "Hey sorry, I'm just doing this marriage bullshit thing, and i just need some information". Mum was guttered to hear that spoken to his ex and felt he was down playing (rubbishing) the marriage so to not upset the ex. So do you think this to be true as well?
Hi Ellena,
He's had opportunities to unblock my mum and to unfriend his ex but hasn't done so...Both him and mum decided to not have Facebook anymore since two years ago but my mother found his Facebook up the other day and his excuse was "he forgot to deactivate his account". However, when mum said "please unblock me, unfriend your ex then deactivate your account, that's when the argument started !
Also is it normal that in one text to his ex , he wrote a x at the end of the sentence and he has always said he hates her so much and that she's a bitch! This seems contradictory don't u think?
That is definitely not normal. What it seems like is that when your step dad and your mom went through that rough patch, your step dad turned to his ex for "emotional support" and with him being a man, (not discriminating against men, just saying I've seen this way too often in men) he doesn't want to get rid of the sex, because with his wife AND his ex, he's getting twice the pleasure he would originally get and blocking your mom on Facebook makes it all the more easier for him to hide the things between him and his ex.