Is it normal my mom has suddenly turned into a holy roller

My mother all of a sudden has turned into a religious freak. She bans little random harmless things from our house saying that it "might represents demons" and crap like that. (for example, she banned the internet, all disney movies and merchandise, cable tv, harry potter, the hunger games, all music except for gospel) And on top of all this she drags us to church 3 times a week and made me join the CHOIR. Plus we're going on vacation and she's making us go to some Christian themepark. AND on top of that, i'm going away to school soon and she has already told me that she is going to drive the 5 hour drive to my university every weekend just to bring me back to go to church. I know what she's trying to do, it feels like shes trying to force all this stuff in my head. I am agnostic and all the bullshit she feeds me is constant and its driving me crazy to be bombarded with all this stuff 24/7. Every other word out of her mouth is "god" or "holy spirit" or "jesus" or "how many times did you pray today?" or "you better be praying and reading your bible like i told you to" or "you'll go to hell for that"

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  • Short4Words

    I agree completely. She has to let you make up your own mind. Have you told this to her simply? That's she's pushing you away from her?

    You could explain her to that, if she believes in free will, shouldn't the same be allowed in your house? If God allowed us to choose to love him or not, should you not get the same choice? I think she might know this but she's stubborn and thinks her actions alone will save you, it's not how it works.

    Don't let it destroy your relationship though. You have to make some action towards resolution. If you can't talk to her, which I really think you need to do. Talk to your pastor, if he doesn't get it, you don't belong in that Church.

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    • suckonthis9

      Which deity are you speaking about?

      The creatures who many people perceive as a 'deity', are neither a 'him', nor a 'her'. They are polygamous in nature, but they do assume male and female roles.

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      • Short4Words

        Do you ever give it a rest?

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      • suckonthis9

        Oops.

        The above should read 'hermaphroditic in nature', not 'polygamous'.

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        • Ethereal-Silence

          I prefer androgynous, whatever floats your boat sinks my ship.

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          • suckonthis9

            Incorrect.

            The VHATC-L2 prefer "hermaphrodite".
            Please do not confuse terminology, this is why I had corrected my error.

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  • ProseAthlete

    I am so sorry to hear your mom's gone that route. A lot of people are super mega holy rollers when they first convert, so maybe she'll calm down. If she doesn't, well...I hope you can move out soon.

    Otherwise, cross your fingers and hope to develop telekinetic powers like Carrie, I guess?

    Truly, I am sorry you're having to live with that. She's doing what she thinks is right for you, so try to look at it as coming from a place of love even if you find the message itself abhorrent. Oh, and get a library card if you don't already have one. Every mom is happy to hear her son or daughter wants to go to the library, and you can read Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, the Gormenghast trilogy or anything else that floats your inquisitive agnostic boat. :)

    Good luck, and I hope she snaps out of it.

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    • NeuroNeptunian

      This.

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  • baronroderick

    Few things can harm more your personality than parents who are religious nuts. Believe me, there are a LOT of people in your situation right now. I pity them... well, if you're a grown-up man, your mom can't force you to do anything, but I would avoid a direct confrontation. If you're minor, hold on, this will not last forever, you'll be free soon. At least you're not an agnostic/atheist being forced to attend a catholic school, that's a hard time.
    Search the web for the tumblr proud-atheist, the blogger has already answered questions of people like you. You'll get useful advice there.
    Good luck!

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    • suckonthis9

      You have used a term which divides a group of people who believe in the teachings of Jesus of Nazareth, from other people who also believe in the teachings of Jesus of Nazareth. This term also divides these people from people who have other religious beliefs, as well as dividing them from people who are not religious. The use of this term might be offensive to some people, whether they are religious, or whether they are not religious.

      Why are you creating division in society?

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  • GuessWho

    It's people like that that give Christians a bad name.
    She's going so over the top, that she's probably pushing you further away from the religion.

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    • suckonthis9

      You have used a term which divides a group of people who believe in the teachings of Abraham, from other people who also believe in the teachings of Abraham. This term also divides these people from people who have other religious beliefs, as well as dividing them from people who are not religious. The use of this term might be offensive to some people, whether they are religious, or whether they are not religious.

      Why are you creating division in society?

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      • GuessWho

        This is getting old already.

        Society is divided, Deal with it.

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        • suckonthis9

          Yes, the divisions in society are old.

          It is time that we heal them, for the benefit of all persons.

          I am 'dealing with it'. Are you prepared to help?

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          • GuessWho

            No, I'm motivated to divide it further just because your way of 'dealing with it' attempts to involve me.

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            • suckonthis9

              Then you have decided to remain selfish, stubborn and greedy.

              You have chosen a path to extinction.

              With one small word, "no", you have changed the timeline of the future of Planet Earth.

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    • Peach_Lover

      You pretty much said what I was going to. So I'll just second it.

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  • auburnsin

    New believers tend to do this. That does not classify them as " Holy Rollers" that is something entirely different. When an individual is motivated by their emotion they believe within themselves to the core they are doing right. Not realizing they are doing damage to themselves and those around them. I suggest you look into the denomination.of church your mother attends. This will also give you further insight on why she is doing these things. Also remember this, your mothers house your mothers rules. Untill you move out you must obey her house rules.

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    • sammicrush

      my mom is NOT a new believer. she has been christian all her life but she recently started attending church more regularly and its like she's become completely obssessed with it now. she feels that almost everything is full of sin or something. things she had no problem with before she now hates with a passion. plus i grew up believing so i'm not new to this either. i know all about church and our denomination even though i'm no longer a part of it. i realize these are her rules but sometimes they're so crushing it causes so much stress on me. i know i'll just have to stick in there until i move out.

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      • auburnsin

        I understand where your mother is coming from now. She is focussing primarily on 5 key scriptures. Im sure you are familiar with them. By your mother doing this she is refurring to them constantly. Ive know many people like this. This will either mellow out or your Mother will hold true to them. For your Mother it is a great blessing you must understand this. She is focusing on her faith in God. Im not defended her but I know why she is doing it. Being you were raised in church and if you read the scriptures you know why she is doing this. All I can say is forget patients go for longsuffering. Always respect her even though she goes off at times. Yes honor thy mother and father but also we christians have a saying " so heavenly minded no earthly good" Good luck and I will pray for your situation.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    I have never heard this term "Holy roller". Oh the fun name they make up for religious people. My dad use to do this. Use to yell at me for watching cartoons for 10 year old. Saying they are made evil and satanic. I never watched a lot of filthy stuff I was never interested. It kind of aggravated me. I don't think he ever believed in that. I think he just wanted to feel big by making me feel like shit. However he was ok with sponge-bob which was a much younger audience.

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  • FunkyHuskyCoolGirlYuki

    I know EXACTLY how you feel. When you go off to uni, and she wants you for church EVERY WEEK. Make sure she can't find you, stay in a friend's room or something, then she can't bug you.

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  • Elyod88

    It's not bullshit, but clearly your mother is one of the few bad apples who ruin the whole cart. Don't judge people of faith based on your mothers actions, everyone's spiritual journey is imperative. Even if it's in your own time I really hope that you find Jesus :)

    P.S Good luck with your mum!

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  • bubbles6669420

    it's completely normal for woman in their middle ages to do this. has any traumatic event occurred? if so that would definitely explain it! she'll grow out of it... just takes a year or so...

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  • windowsconspirator21

    It sounds like your mom is just trying to do what she thinks is best for you, but in no way is it right. If she knows how you feel about religion, she shouldn't be pushing her ideas onto you. You're not pushing your philosophical ideas onto her either.
    Tell you how you feel about it, at least. Don't take it too far.

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  • mixwell

    Tell your mom to fuck off and stop trying to force feed religion to you... Thats what I did basically without saying fuck off..

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  • suckonthis9

    The terminology, "holy roller" does not aptly describe any person or group of people.'Holy', is derived from the same etymological root as 'whole', meaning entire or all. This is, in turn derived from other languages, in which the word usually meant 'heathy'.
    It is my belief that your mother, is in fact unhealthy, or unwell. When your mother begins into her tirade, you might want to ask her if she is feeling well. You might also suggest to her that she should seek Psychiatric help for her condition. She does not represent the views of 'all' people, nor is it healthy to do so.

    From Middle English hool (“healthy, unhurt, whole”), from Old English hāl (“healthy, safe”), from Proto-Germanic *hailaz (“whole, safe, sound”) (compare Low German heel/heil, Dutch heel, German heil, Danish hel), from Proto-Indo-European *kóh₂ilus (“healthy, whole”), Welsh coel (“omen”), Breton kel (“omen, mention”), Old Prussian kails (“healthy”), Albanian gjallë (“alive, unhurt”), Old Church Slavonic цѣлъ (cělŭ, “healthy, unhurt”), Ancient Greek ὅλος (hólos, “whole”). Related to hale, health, and heal.

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    • suckonthis9

      Archaic.

      "Demons", do not exist in this Universe, or in any other Universe.

      Perhaps you should inform your mother of this. Should she refute this, then simply ask her to describe any Physical property of a 'demon'.

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      • suckonthis9

        If you are soon to be attending University, then you are an adult, and should be able to manage your own personal affairs.

        Your mother can not impose her beliefs on you, ban anything, or make you do anything that you don't want to do.

        This is in direct violation of Rule #8.

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        • suckonthis9

          When your mother mentions 'god', simply ask her which deity she is speaking about.

          Similar to above, 'spirits' simply do not exist in this Universe, or in any other Universe.

          If she mentions 'Jesus', simply ask her what she knows about the life and times of Jesus of Nazareth.

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          • suckonthis9

            The divisive term which you used, refers to a group of religious divided people, who believe that an Ancient anointing ceremony conferred some sort magical or special powers.
            You can also ask your mother what she knows about this Ancient anointing ceremony.

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            • suckonthis9

              Archaic.

              Please do not use the Archaic term referring to a fictitious nether world.

              Thank you.

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  • dirtybirdy

    That would make me rather cross.

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  • DADNSCAL

    I feel for you. I made a special trip across the country with my wife to spend Mother's Day with my mother. I bought corsages and made reservations at her favorite restaurant. She insisted we all go to church that morning, and so not wanting to cause a problem I went. Much to my astonishment, at communion time, she pointed her finger at us, and ordered us to take communion. We didn't, and she was visibly upset. I bit my tongue and got through the evening, but she nearly ruined the whole trip.

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  • q25t

    Maybe let her know that a choice made under duress is no choice at all. I'd advise making a stand here. If she already knows you don't believe, then tell her that if Jesus wants you, he can give you a sign so you'll believe. He's supposed to be omnipotent, isn't he?

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe your mom joined a CULT!

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