Is it normal my middleaged daughter feels invisible/ugly , i can't relate?

My daughter and her friends are in their mid forties. They are all really depressed and teary and said they feel invisible.That everything they thought was based on personality is based on looks.They have all had alot of botox,bleach their teeth, and look better than me when I was 30.

It is the end of the world that they don't look good in their daughter's clothes.(?) They are healthy ,have good relationships and great kids and more money than I had and are well connected.

I never went through any of these feelings.Maybe I wasn't paying attention.I kind of always did my own thing regardless of what people thought. I do think they should stop bronzing themselves so much.They look like pumpkins. But I don't want to hurt their feelings.I am not sure what to say.

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  • riffraffy

    They hit the wall so fast that it damn near killed them. They should have developed skills and value outside of being attractive, as looks always fade. It's probably too late, but tell her to seek fulfilment in a way that goes beyond a guy wanting to have sex with her.

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  • theotherblonde

    It does suck to get old. But a lot of the things they do like fake tanning and wearing too young clothes and plastering make up on with a spatula make you look older.

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  • dynamicpaint

    She is weak and will die out. Because evolution is all about who is the meanest and toughest.

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  • littlemisstrouble

    They all have each other if you have friends life is better don't listen to other people we are all individuals nobody is perfect

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  • Adopt-a-thot

    I suggest a hobby like soap carving or meditation. Travel always helps. Also pumpkins are very festive right now.

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