Is it normal my love is not the same as sexual attraction?

I am a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man. I am absolutely in love with him, I am sure of it. But I am not very sexually attracted to him simply because he is not female. I seem to be more likely to fall in love with men, but I find women more sexually attractive. Is this normal?

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Based on 21 votes (17 yes)
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  • Brownblowout

    You like butch lovin'

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  • imadragon

    Yup, that is common in bisexuals, some people find one sex more sexually attractive. But some peoples sexual attraction isn't the same as their romantic attraction, it's important not to get romantic and sexual attraction mixed together because they are not the same thing, and that is totally okay, you don't need to be sexually attracted to him to be with him.

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    • Thank you so much, you're very helpful :)

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  • joolia03

    I think being a female bisexual, you're most likely to find females more attractive. Females are generally more attractive than males. So I believe its normal yo

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  • Nokiot9

    I'm bi. But a man, and I have a similar problem. If u wanna call it a problem, I do. I am sexually attracted to men, but romantically and physically attracted to women. I could never be in a romantic relationship with a man, maybe I just haven't met the right one, idk. But is also a problem for me in that most women expect monogamy. The need twisted up in their chromosomes. And being bi, it's something I have a very hard time abiding by. There is always gonna be that part of my sexuality that my GF just can't satisfy. No matter what she does. And I'm not one of those guys that gets off by letting another guy rail the love of my life. I love being bisexual when I'm single. It's great. Because you have twice the options, bit when I have a GF, everything gets extremely complicated. I normally have to completely ignore that side of myself to appease my GF or lie to her. And I've never been good at lying to the ones I love.

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    • Yeah it's difficult allright. I just look at lesbian porn when I get urges to screw other women. But it makes sex awkward sometimes because I'm not really sexually attracted to males. I'm glad I'm not the only one like this but it sucks that other people have to deal with this problem too...

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  • AlphaQ

    You need a threesome stat. 2 girls 1 guy. man is in heaven.

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    • I have sugested it but he doesn't want to share me, which is disapointing. Maybe later on in our relationship he'll be up for it. He's bi too so I would like to have fun.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Get yourself a tranny.

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