Is it normal my long term gf isnt as obsessed with me anymore

You're not supposed to obsesessed with your partner. That's not healthy. In a normal relationship you're pretty much friends who choose to stay together as a couple everyday because you love each other and want to. Sorry to break it to you but the high feeling of love only lasts the honeymoon phase, sometimes longer but certainly not forever. You sound young, like you don't know what love is and take movies too seriously.

Obsession isn't part of a healthy relationship.

Relastionships are exciting at first but eventually that magic wears off as it becomes normal. At wich point is when you start noticing each others flaws and whether or not you can deal with them.

My bf is a bit ocd. Some of his quirks are frankly adorable.

Her not being "obsessed" doesnt mean she doesn't care for you but you've become an everyday part of her life and are now normal. So relax your all good chances are she still cares about you deeply.

Seriously dude! That's depressing how you perceive the relationship! So what if she's not always thinking about you! That's just life man! The honeymoon phase can't last forever. If it did, the relationships would be fake. Additionally, so what if your girlfriend isn't as passionate. This is good as she can be comfortable being her real self.

This is a big step for the both of you. As long as at the end of day; she is still interested and invested into the relationship.

In relationships, there's a period known as "The honeymoon phase" where things are at their peak, you're likely fawning all over one another and doing heaps of couple-y things. It's natural for that to fade gradually similar to a sugar high. It doesn't mean you love each other less, it simply means they're 'comfortable' in the relationship and relax when it comes to all the couple-y stuff.

That being said, if she said that she feels "less passionate" then that's not a healthy sign. I'd recommend sitting down and having a talk about what can be done.

All people are different but being obsessed with someone usually only occurs early on. In the beginning you usually can't get enough of that person but over time you get used to them and both people should be comfortable and have their natural boundaries.

That's the way life and love works, bud.

Falling in love is easy. Most people are hard-wired to experience it if the right person comes along when we're receptive to having our psychological buttons pushed. Most people also find that the giddy, new relationship energy fades over time. Which is just as well, since being in that state is emotionally exhausting and it can prevent you from engaging with anything else in your life.

A huge problem is that popular culture defines love as that exciting, irrational, obsessive early-stage buzz, and once that starts to fade, the temptation arises to go off and look for another hit with someone new.

It could be that your relationship is moving in to a new, deeper, more emotionally mature phase, but it's also possible that there never was much there from the beginning apart from seething hormones and the thrill of the new, and inertia is the only thing keeping you two together.

Send her your ear to get the spark back in your relationship!

After a long term relationship, one or both people usually lose interest. It’s normal and you should both maybe be moving on to other things or think about taking a break.