Is it normal my husband may be a bad father?

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My husband and I have been married 2 years together 4 and we have a 18 month son. From the time our son was born my husband has never had much to do with him. He didn't want to hold him or help me with him or play. I am a stay at home mother. I do everything here. Dishes, cooking, cleaning, laundry, and I care for the baby. My husband works to support us so I feel it is my duty to do everything house and baby related. But I have not been away from our son since he was born. Even when I take a shower I have to bring the baby with me. My son will be 2 in 6 months and I think my husband should be spending a little bit of time with him, but he won't. If I set the baby in his lap he just puts him back in his play yard. He won't help me bathe him or feed him or even play with him with out huffing and puffing first. Also he may work but he has plenty of time to sit and play GOW3 or Diablo III with his friends for 6 hours a night, so I feel like he should take at least 30 mins of that time to play with our son. Our son can say about 15 words and Da Da is NOT one them. Also he yells at the baby a lot when he cries. My husband has very good parents that both spent a lot of time with him growing up so I don't understand why he is the way he is.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    Sounds like a shit dad to me.

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  • zackattack
    11 years ago

    I don't understand him. Yes he's probably exhausted from work, so maybe he has a bad temper. However, the fact that he clearly shows that he doesn't want his son I find strange and tragic. You have to force him o spend a day with the kid. Just the two of them. If he still doesn't love your son, than he has some real problems, that will only get worse when your son grows up.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    He's almost acting like he never wanted a kid.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      It was his idea for us to have a baby so early. I don't understand this man lol. I love him though

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    11 years ago

    He either needs to grow the F up or he thinks the baby is not his. Either way, he needs to grow the F up.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      He cannot deny that the baby is his, he looks just like my husband. Besides I'm not a cheater. I wouldn't want him to cheat on me so why would I cheat on him. By the way my husband is 23. I don't mind his gaming at all I just want him to take 30 mins a day to spend time with the baby.

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      • myboyfriendsbitch
        11 years ago

        My bf games too. And he hurts constantly, has many medical problems and he is lazy, but he still helps me change a diaper from time to time, plays with our daughter, makes her stuff to eat and goes with me to take her to the doc every appointment and watches her while i go to school or sometimes just to go out, etc. He even did these things when he was working. Your husband is not a good father and you should talk to him about it before your son just resents him.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          I have tried talking to him about it all he says is "I don't know"

          He is a very very very good husband. Just not the best dad.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    yells at the baby?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    He was smothered as a child probably spoilt and used to getting his own way. When he is at work take his toys away force him to spend time with the baby.

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  • aminormal321
    11 years ago

    I can't wait to be a dad someday. To be honest, I'll probably end up spending too much time with it when I do. I'd spend as much time as I could with it.

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  • aminormal321
    11 years ago

    He doesn't seem ready to be a father. He seems pretty immature and thinks the world revolves around him.

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  • bigtoy
    11 years ago

    It's not that strange. Men aren't into babies as much as women are. I was the same way - never changed a diaper or made up a bottle etc, but when my daughter started to show her intelligence, I became fascinated by her. Now everyone admires how good a dad I am. You just have to give it time. It's not easy but it will come right if you have the patience.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      So you wouldn't hold your kid either? You wouldn't play with her? You yelled at your baby when she cried? My son will walk into the computer room and try to play with my husband but he just pushes him away. Did you do that too? I don't know about you my my guy friends spend time with their kids. and they are all about the same age as my son.

      I could care less if he changes a diaper or give my boy some food. He feeds himself he's not really a baby anymore. I just still call him a baby.

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  • zchristian
    11 years ago

    Sounds like my dad which is why i dont really care about him.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Yes he yells at the baby when he cries. No matter why the baby is crying he yells.

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    • aminormal321
      11 years ago

      You should get him to go to therapy, it would definitely help

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