Is it normal my husband is infatuated with a big boobed unattractive woman?

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I just found out my husband has a strong attraction for a woman at work. She is very unattractive, 55 years old, with a big neck, big arms, no waist, big hips, short and stocky, and fat wrinkled legs. She has no personality, is boring and phoney. But she has one thing: Giant Fake Boobs!

She wears tight shirts that show her cleavage everyday to the office. A high school office. She greets substitute teachers every morning with her cleavage (in the high school).

I have suspected this infactuation for some time. Everytime I make a crack about the woman with cleavage greeting the substitutes, he defends her, and calls her a nice person (he doesn't even know her and has never talked to her). He proceeds to get mad at me to the point that he hangs the phone up on me, or stomps out of the room. I have only made an innocent comment!

He finally admitted he was attracted to her "boobs only". Before he would call her ugly and adamently refuse that he is attracted to her at all. He has never even talked to her. This has been going on for 2 years.

I am not obsessed, I just want my husband to be truthful with me, to not put her on a pedastal and defend her whenever I make a slight joke on her behalf.

What do you think is going on?

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VirgilManly

9 years ago

He's lying. He's really attracted to her big neck.

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kupokupo

9 years ago

Most likely nothing is going on. It's normal for people to look at other people and you have to realise that. If a woman has a particularly nice figure or something then most men will generally look - that's not because they're suddenly infatuated with the woman or attracted at all even. It happens with women too, I'm sure you like to look at guys you find particularly attractive even though you're already in a relationship. Remember that your husband married you. Of all the people in the world, he wants to be with you, and while some people may have some attractive features it's only you who's beautiful to him.

You sound very suspicious of your husband. In simply looking at your post title- "IIN my husband is infactuated with a big boobed ugly woman?" - it's fairly obvious that you think there IS something going on and he's in some kind of love with her. This probably also means that when you talk about it with him, you accuse him of things and it most likely ends up with him feeling like you're confronting him rather than just talking about a simple matter. Try to stay calm if it comes up again, remember that there's no evidence anything fishy is going on, he's not even spoken to her, so there's no reason to get annoyed.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I am annoyed because he is so defensive about her when I make a slight crack, and I mean a very lightweight comment, and I only do it twice a year,and not all the time. It is the lying that bothers me, not that he is merely "looking" at a woman.
  
  He doesn't know she is a nice person because he has never talked to her besides saying good morning. He does not know her as a person.
  
  It is all about the boobs.
  
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  - kupokupo
    
    9 years ago
    
    So what he's attracted to her boobs? If he acts on it, that's where there's a problem. I'm sure you're attracted to guy's abs and muscles in movies and shit. It's obvious your mind is set. Talk to him about it, don't confront him.
    
    Maybe he's defensive because your comments are unwarrented. As far as he knows she's a nice person - he's never spoke to her so why would he think otherwise?
    
    You're thumbing up comments that confirm your suspicion when seriously there's likely nothing going on. Especially if he has an attractive wife in yourself and this woman is pretty ugly.
    
    I'm fucked off today so sorry if this reads like I'm a cuntbag.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I just feel that he is not happy with me if he has to carry on a fantasy with a woman like this, who flaunts her fake boobs, and is almost 60 years old, and truly not attractive. Maybe it is a weird fetish. But he lies about it.
      
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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

this sounds...weird. I mean a fat old lady is still a fat old lady even with big boobs...what bothers me is that he likes a fat old lady with FAKE boobs. He needs to start looking at regular porn, buy him a magazine with normal nubile young girls.
Hopefully he doesnt have a granny fetish...

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  I agree. Thank you for your comment. He will not look at porn! I would perfer the porn over people like this that he sees everyday that are real in his life. Part of it is I am younger and I guess attractive, and my boobs are pretty big too. Why does he need to carry on this fantasy with this older unattractive women just because of the fake boobs? It's sad to me, and sad that he lies to me about it.
  
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  - wistfulmaiden
    
    9 years ago
    
    I don't know. Some people have the weirdest fetishes.
    Good luck with the whole thing.
    
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mountain-man82

9 years ago

He may honestly think shes a nice person, he could have a crush on her, or it could be more. Have a talk with him.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  He won't talk to me about it. I have only made a slight crack 4 times total in the past 2 years. It is annoying he defends a woman that he does not know at all.
  
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Bobblahblah

9 years ago

Of course it's normal, and he may be secretive to protect your feelings.

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