Is it normal my husband insists i should have at least one orgasm a day

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My husband decided a few months ago that I should have an orgasm every day. Apparently it is supposed to be good for preventing cancer, relieving stress and various other general health benefits. We don't have sex every day, that usually happens on the weekends but not always, and occasionally we have an early night in the week. But this has become a bit of an obsession with him. I have always allowed my husband to have the last word in how we live our lives, and I'm ok with that, and don't get me wrong I always feel great after a good orgasm, but I am wondering how normal this is. We do vary the method, oral, fingers, vibrators etc, but I sometimes feel like I would be happy to give it a miss, but he won't hear of it. Do any other couples do this and how do you feel about it?

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  • FARTNIGGASBELIKEOOPSISHITTED
    6 years ago

    Sigh, this is the same phony idiot from the "old fashioned male and female" post. You must be one seriously lonely old man to be posting such lame fantasies/jokes here, huh?.

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  • Bailey_Rose
    6 years ago

    1. It's your body. You control when and where you orgasm and how often you do.

    2. He isn't completely wrong. Studies have shown that orgasms (sex in general) can indeed help relieve headaches, stress, and menstrual cramps. This is because your body releases a chemical called OXYTOCIN and other endorphins. These are the body's natural pain killing hormones. So it isn't really fair to call your husband a cockstain.

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  • BipolarDiscounts
    6 years ago

    Yiur cockstain hussband sounds like a dirty tranny hooker!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I bet your extensive vocabulary never ceases to amaze your friends and family, even if you can't spell.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Orgasm when you want to, not when he wants you to.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    Actually I was being a real bitch when I posted this, had the mother in law staying for the weekend and she has always thought I'm not good enough for her boy. Anyway it's a rare occurrence and she's gone now. I know it has health benefits and he has my best interests at heart, and 99% of the time I am actually like WOW that was great. I also know that often he wants to make love afterwards, especially if it's early evening or during the afternoon on a weekend, but most of the time I tell him no and he respects that, so I actually am really lucky. We usually only make love once or twice a week. I am probably being really selfish and I know that but this was his idea, so normal or not I will probably just keep going with the flow.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    Admittedly when he first came out with it I was like, 'Wow what do you mean, I should have an orgasm every day?' He literally just said it in bed one Saturday morning. We had made love and I hadn't cum. I was fine with it, I love having sex with him, sometimes I cum sometimes I just don't, but it's ok. But this day he seemed really put out, then he says I should have an orgasm every day and starts going on about the health benefits. I was a bit taken back but then I thought it was just some mad idea he had come up with, so I told him, ok you can start tonight. It was really strange because any other time he would just be happy we had made love and he'd cum. That night we went to bed and I had forgotten all about it, but he says don't forget I am giving you an orgasm tonight. I tell him I don't want to make love again, we did that this morning. He tells me we are not but he is going to give me an orgasm, which he did and made a great job of it. Next day he's on about it again, and then every morning that week before work. I have to say it was a great way to wake up in the morning but I didn't expect it to last. After a couple of weeks I had had enough, it kind of felt like I was under pressure, this made it hard to even have an orgasm and I did fake it a couple of times just so I could get up and get on. I told him I wanted to stop but he is having none of it, we changed things so sometimes it happens in the morning but other days it will be early evening or when we go to bed. We have mixed things up so he picks the time of day and I choose how I want him to make me cum, but I can not choose the same way 2 days running and he can not pick the same time 2 days running. Even so after all this time I have kind of had enough, I told him I would like to stop doing it every day, but he is quite insistent. I guess it's like if you had your favourite meal every day, eventually you would be sick of it. As much as an orgasm is a very pleasurable experience (and I do still enjoy a lot of them) every day gets to be a bit of a drain.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    What I don't get is we have been married over 20 years and he has never been one to be obsessive about things. We have always maintained a good sex life, even when the kids were small, it's something we made sure we had time for, but for about 10 months or so this has been going on. I really don't know if I should be worried about his behaviour or just keep lying back and enjoying the moment.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Sounds a bit obsessive to me and I am a sex addict, but whatever you enjoy. My initial thought is he is overcompensating for something.

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