Is it normal my husband has intense fantasy crushes on co-workers?

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My husband enjoys building up women in his mind. He takes the best looking woman at work, and makes her into a playboy bunny when she is not very attractive. He fantasizes being in a relationship with her, what sex would be like, what they would do together.....

He talks and flirts with them every day. They are perfect in his mind and can do no wrong.But once they realize he likes them, they reject him by avoiding him. He is much older than they are.

He never gets a chance to start the affair, but he wants to. He tries.

He has told me he would stop this, but he still does it and hides it from me.

It is hard for me because he changes toward me when he has one of these crushes going on. He is disinterested in sex, ignores me, has less respect for me and criticizes me. I feel he is in love with another woman.

What should I do?

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  • sourgrapes
    7 years ago

    No it's not bloody well normal...

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  • Fish73
    7 years ago

    Dump him and get with someone that fantasises about you

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    Why are you even putting up with this shit? Don´t you have any sort of self respect? Shit like this is obviously not normal and he´ll cheat first chance he gets and then throw you away like used socks.

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  • Addydas
    7 years ago

    Sigh

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  • Daddyshome
    7 years ago

    Fuck another man and make him watch, you never know, he could want this secretly or it'll fix his ass from trying

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  • itisnorm
    7 years ago

    This is very similar to a story posted on here a couple of weeks ago, you should try to find it to see if the replies help you also
    I don't know what to say to you, other than I feel sorry for you, because for meetings would be an untenable situation .
    How do you know he fantasizes about them? Does he tell you
    If so unless this is part of a sex game that you both enjoy, him fantasing about them,it is far from normal(atleast telling you about it is, you will find it is normal for men to fantasize ).
    I will say a prayer for you, take care of yourself:)

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I repeat (s)aint's question: why are you putting up with this shit?

    He's either playing games with you or he has a mental problem: either way I wouldn't be listening to it or hanging around any longer.

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