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Never had sex, I'm a women and thinking or watching porn makes me anxious ?? I sometimes wonder if I'll ever be able to get to her point of having sex and or enjoy it because I feel my anxiety kick in
If watching pornography gives you anxiety then don't watch it. Pornography is pretty much garbage, it is NOT based in reality, and it oftentimes objectifies, and degrades women.
With regard to having sex, take your time, and save yourself for someone you love who loves you too. Don't compare yourself to other people, especially don't compare yourself to the people depicted in pornography.
Did you know that the vast majority of porn actors/actresses were abused, neglected and molested as children? Oftentimes the people who star in pornographic films are addicted to drugs, and alcohol. Additionally porn stars have some of the highest rates of suicide!
Pornography is dehumanizing garbage, and not worth the time, and trouble you're wasting on it! No wonder you have anxiety about sexual intimacy!
Idk mate porn hasn't affected me. I find the dehumanizing of women to be very sexy as well. Couldn't you be a little nore open minded?
Dehumanizing women is "sexy"?!
That comment TRULY defines the kind of person you are.
What a disgusting thing to say.... (and to be turned on by).
Thanks for showing us your true colors !!
Doesnormalmatter is actually a pretty sensible person, although I see why you'd be concerned - that comment was out of context.
I swear your Charlie.m's alt. Do I need to block you? The fact that I am kinky is not new news on here you must not have been paying attention.
But back on topic, yes, I think its sexy. If you think thats a problem, then you must think dehumanizing women for sexual purposes is immoral. And I think there is some gray area there.
If the dehumanizing is consensual and temporary, I don't consider it immoral. And many women fantasize about things that could be considered dehumanizing.
You're starting to say Charlie more than a Vietnam vet.
Dude, if you think everyone who disagrees with you is charli, you're in for a world of hurt. You say soooooo so so much offensive shit & people are gonna disagree. You have every right to say what you want, but you gonna need 2 Learn to deal with people on here disagreeing with your opinions.
Yeah I get the part about tolerating people more its just that they sounded just like Charlie.m in the way they said it. I know how to disagree. I've done it with RoseIsablla a total of 7 times if you count this. Your a reasonable fella looking out for me and I appreciate that. Thanks mate.
NO!!! It's garbage an dehumanizing women is not sexy, it immoral. Women who star in those films, and allow those things to be done to them as mostly victims of childhood abuse, molestation and neglect.
I can't respect people being into that garbage, and it is garbage.
Its only immoral if its not consensual (with very few exceptions) In my opinion of course!
How do you know all pornstars are only enjoy it because they were all abused as kids? I don't think thats true. Do you have any evidence for that I can take a peek at?
Well I know that. But you stated it as a fact in your second to last comment and I think that is misrepresenting pornstars in a more negative light then they deserve. And I think theres a lot more nuance to why pornstars enjoy it than just 'they were all abused as kids!'
Also if you "can't respect people" based on porn preferences, I want you to explain how the porn qe are talking about is actually immoral. I want you to understand that I didn't get to chose what I found sexy. I liked it before I knew it was morally questionable. Then I examined my motives and the situation and decided that I will not stop watching abusive porn if its consensual, reasonably safe, and legal. The pros outweighed the possible cons.
Not all porn is the same - and there's certainly a *lot* of it. Don't characterize all pornography as inherently harmful.
Not all porn is the same and I suggest you branch out a bit. You don't have to watch it if you don't want to, though. Have you tried reading erotica instead?
Porn is mostly blonde hair, fake tits and huge schlongs flapping around the room, not to mention a whole lot of bad acting. You can hardly count on that to give you a realistic perspective of sexual intimacy, dear...especially if you're nervous to begin with.
If you're still experiencing anxiety even if only thinking about sex, there's absolutely no shame in talking to a therapist about it.
You just need the right porn for you to relax, not all porn is the same!!