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Is it normal my gf wants to break up because she said she haven't recovered fully from her past break up before starting with me, meanwhile she knows I love her very well.
If it was me, I'd let her deal with her own shit in her own time and allow the break up.
If she is worth your effort she'll remember that you've been a good boyfriend and come back to you when she feels ready for a relationship.
Split up but stay in contact, and tell her if she needs anything you'll be there. It'll hurt and it'll be difficult, but in the long run it's better for you both.
Let her go. It will save you a lot of heartache in the long-run.
Only be with someone who really wants to be with you. Don't chase someone who isn't sure about you.
I did this once, after my breakup with my first love who'd been emotionally abusive I went to therapy to deal with it but i'd met someone new right before and I was in love with him but as time progressed I realized I wasn't over my past breakup so it didn't work. I broke up out of guilt for not being over the breakup and also so I could process it in peace.
I would like to know more about it because I refused to breakup and some days later she is still saying same thing, that I should give her space but I'm afraid she might get someone else
How the hell do you refuse to break-up with someone? Do you live in some fucked up country where women can be bought and sold as slaves? Do you have her locked in your cellar? Have you superglued your hand to hers?
You sound incredibly immature, needy and obsessive, perhaps to the point of being an incredibly creepy - or possibly even dangerous - stalker. That just might be the reason she's decided you're not someone she wants to spend time with.
1.So how did it feel for the person to accept the breakup
2.and did you go back to the person after you were OK.
3.how long did it take you to get over the past relationship
He was upset of course but he accepted it and moved past it, we remained on very good terms and yes I did want to get back with him later (about a year later) but he'd met someone else then actually.
It took me about 2-3 years to get over that first relationship. 3 years to get over it fully, 2 years to not be bothered by it so much that it got in the way of dating anymore but this is of course individual how long it takes for someone.
So how long do you think it should take before I approach her about a relationship again
I dont think its a very good idea overall. She should be the one to do that since she is the one to leave and she appears to have left in order to heal. You dont wanna pressure her, that'll push her away even more.
She came back telling me that she thought of me and realized that she wanted marriage but the things I'm pursuing will delay marriage so she doesn't want to give me any pressure.
We both are 25 years and she wants to get married before 30.
And I don't think she has to ask for breakup because of that, she should have called me and let us discuss for us to reason and know what to do, because the research she did about what I'm pursuing gave shows that we will be able to get married in 3 to 4 years time meanwhile I know by a year or two we can get married, and she's using it against the relationship by deciding on her own without confirming from me.
It also looked to me as if she wants a different person so she looked for something as a cover upup.
I just don't understand her
Just let her go. It could be she just wants out and doesn't want to hurt your feelings, if that's the case u can't force it.
Rule 1. Stop flogging a dead horse.
Rule 2. Never go back to repeat mistakes
Rule 3. Move on.
Get the point?
There are two possibilities here.
1. She considered your feelings and didn't wanna waste your time by dragging you along whilst she was still holding a flame for someone else (her ex).
2. She's covering up the fact she isn't interested in pursuing a relationship and is trying to go about things in a way that hurts you the least.