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My GF refuses to tell me what she is going through because she claims she doesn't want to bother even after I explained to her that it's not a bother to me. Why?
1) She doesn't trust you to keep what she says to yourself.
2) You're the cause of her problems, but she doesn't want to break up.
3) She doesn't fully understand why she's feeling like she is.
4) She's embarrassed that she's upset by what's bothering her.
5) She's feeling guilty about something and thinks you knowing would make you think less of her.
6) She's done something criminal and she's afraid you'll turn her in to the cops.
7) She's been threatened that if she tells anyone, something awful will happen.
8) She thinks she's strong enough to deal with her problems on her own.
9) Telling you would give you leverage to blackmail her in future.
10) Someone has told her something awful but made her promise not to share it with anyone.
11) She's going through that teen phase where you start to doubt the point of life and it all seems so futile and meaningless.
And so on and on and on...
The only thing that matters is that she's made it clear she doesn't want to talk to you about it. Let her know that you're available to listen, but respect her decision and accept that everyone has the right to a private mental life.
That's her right, leave her alone and maybe she'll come to trust you enough to confide in you.
Because she has better things to do than bitch and whine about her life to a loser like you?
I have a million reasons I avoid telling problems to certain people it’s hard to pin it to one.