Is it normal my friend says she's finally at a healthy weight bmi but

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I want to be happy for her, I do and I am happy she lost weight but she's telling everyone she's at a healthy BMI now Because her BMI is a dot under 30 (29.9). But she is still 30 pounds overweight!

She's 5'4 and 174 pounds which is very overweight but because she's under 30 (her BMI was 33) and she lost 20 pounds, she thinks that she's okay now. I said that's great, what's your next goal? And she told me she has no next goal and that she's at a healthy BMI now and that's all that matters. I subtly said but a BMI over 25 is overweight and you're 1 pound away from obesity. She just ignored me and said whatever.

I don't understand why she doesn't want to be a normal size/healthy. She's still an XL in shirts and pants...How is that healthy? I could understand it if she were closer to overweight but she's still obese because her BMI is basically 30.

I want her to be healthy and care more. Is that too much to expect? I think it's weird how she denies that she's still obese.

is it normal I'm so annoyed with her?

(Please put this question through, I'm not a troll and It took me a while to type this. Thank you. x)

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  • zoffix
    9 years ago

    So when did she reach that goal? If it's recent, maybe it took a lot for her to lose those 20lb and she just wants to enjoy feeling she's accomplished her goal.

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  • TheJester
    9 years ago

    Uh yes, it is too much to expect, especially because you're her friend and its none of your business what she weighs, what she plans on weighing and what she considers a healthy BMI or weight.

    Yes, its terribly unhealthy and unhygenic to be obese, but its still her choice and just because skinny people are universally accepted as better than fat people, doesn't mean she's wrong because she's not interested in losing weight or dropping a couple of pants sizes. I wouldn't exactly call myself overweight, but I'm no stick figure. I would be unimaginably offended if one of my friends were to assume their opinion mattered enough to me that they could tell me I should lose weight, and actually get away with it and remain my friend.

    Although its true that honesty is the best policy, I don't think she's asking for your honesty. I think she knows she's overweight, knows how damn hard it is to drop the weight and expects you, as a friend, to respect her nomatter what her pants size is.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Could be too lazy to actually work out or make more effort into losing more weight.

    If you really want to help her maybe try to exercise with her. Give her some offers like, "Want to walk to blah blah blah?" and etc.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    Some people are actually OK with being overweight. Food makes them happier than anything else...and if they really accept all the potential health problems well, leave hem be. There is NO way you can tell a woman she is fat and not have her hold it against you, evenif you have her best interest in mind.
    Id rather live 60 happy years than 90 miserable years.

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  • FireFlower
    9 years ago

    Maybe she has an irrational fear of becoming too skinny. Like the opposite of anorexia.

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