Is it normal my friend's mother is pressuring her into a relationship with.,

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My friend is 26, her Mother is telling her she needs to find a husband before she turns 30 and she said her coworker hasn't been married yet and is currently single. He's 56 so over twice her age. He looks about 46 so a bit younger but he still looks old enough to be her father.

I was just over her place and he was there as her mother invited him over for dinner along with two other coworkers who are married and older (the other 2 were in their late 60s).

Anyway, my friend's mother is 52 years old so the guy she's trying to set her daughter up with is even OLDER than her mom!

My friend is Indian so I know this is a cultural thing but the age thing is not. Her Father is only 55 so he's not a lot older than the Mother.

My friend is afraid because she says she doesn't feel right to be dating him and doesn't want to marry someone "just because". Her sister was married at 19 to someone her parents picked out who was 30 at the time and her sister was fine with it but that age gap is much smaller as well.

Is this normal? My friend wants to get away from her family and go into hiding from them.. :/

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago | pl

    Cultural or not what's happening with your friend is shitty, and I hope she runs away and gets someplace safe. As far as I'm concerned there's no shame in being single whatever age you are.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    is your 'friend' actually you?
    it's okay, you can tell us.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Normal they're pressuring her if that's their culture but still not OK

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  • Unimportant
    8 years ago

    We can't stop criticizing bad ideas just because they are part of a culture, and we are afraid to appear intolerant or racist. This fear shouldn't give them a free pass.

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      I'm not afraid. Being called judgmental is not insulting to me.
      :-)

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  • ReginaFalange
    8 years ago

    If she doesn't want to date him, they shouldn't make her.
    It's ok to introduce him or to suggest the idea to her, specially because it's a cultural practice.
    But if she has met him and doesn't like him... I don't think that'd be even legal.
    Hope she can convince her parents instead of having to get to the point of scaping :(

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