Is it normal my friend is a masochist.

Right... When I first realised I was a masochist, I did a load of stupid stuff like that to get my kicks too. I don't blame myself; after finding a new, exciting, interesting way to derive pleasure, particularly one that's so powerful and intense, you want to try it out as much and in as many ways as possible!

But what I didn't initially realise (or perhaps care about) was that it's not fair to put people in any position where they're going to give you sexual gratification if it's not on their terms. Look at it this way; most people don't think that by hitting someone, you're bringing them one step closer to jizzing in their pants, and if they did, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't want to do it. You're essentially taking advantage of someone for your own gain, and its not fair on them. It makes people feel guilty; I have scars all up my arms from convincing my friends to put cigarettes out on me, and every time they see them, they apologise and I can see they still feel uncomfortable about it all. Also, being so 'open' about it can put you in a pretty weird position; once I got really buzzed and kept asking my mates to hit me (picture a guy kneeling on the floor, begging someone to kick me in the face) and someone filmed it. It got out around school and now pretty much every one in my home town thinks I'm a nutter.

Now, I'm not saying he's gonna go that far or go crazy, but it might be worth sitting him down and explaining to him that he really can't go around asking people to help get him off like that (because seriously, that's what it boils down to). It makes people feel uncomfortable, and if he doesn't want to get a bad reputation he's really gotta reel himself in. This sort of stuff comes back to bite you in the ass, and at the time I didn't believe it when I was told that, but it's really true.

But also, tell him that he's not alone; there are tonnes of other guys and girls who are into the same sort of thing, and that it won't be hard for him to find someone who'll willingly indulge in his fantasies. Masochism isn't a bad thing so long as you don't let it control you, and I'm sure he'll have a lot of fun under the stiletto heels of a leather-clad domme for many years to come!

Tell him to keep it in the bedroom where it belongs, unless he wants to ostracize himself or get arrested. It's a simple choice really.

ya i did the same to when i discovered the same fetish. just tell him to hit himself with a belt or twist his nipples while jacking off. works with me every time....