Is it normal my fiance switches from happy to angry instantaneously?

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I will be having a perfectly normal, bland conversation and something will set him off and he storms off after insulting me. Like today, we were chatting about our trip plans over the phone, and I "answered too slow" "ur too busy to talk to me". I said it must have been lag because I replied the second I got the mesg. But he called me a liar, insulted me and went offline (or blocked me, idk).

This man is almost 30 years old! He does this ALL THE TIME. Any tiny thing that annoys him he will automatically blame me, even if I didn't do it, and get mad and quit talking to me for hours or days.

He will also insult me with very vulgar things or say mean things like "it's ok I don't love you anyway". Then he will come back and say "I didn't mean it sorry". I don't even swear at all, not even when I'm angry, but he will swear at me over being 2 seconds late answering a txt!

This is starting to get on my last nerve. I can't stand the immaturity anymore. Are all men like this? I don't have much experience with them. He drives me more and more to the point of dumping him, but he always comes back and flirts with me and sweet talks me into forgiving him. I think i'm losing my mind!

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  • charli.m
    9 years ago

    No, all men are not like that. Dickheads are.

    Ditch him. Fucker has attitude problems. If this was an occasional thing, I'd say try to work it out, but it sounds like an on going thing. So duck him.

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  • Anonymous200
    9 years ago

    This is emotional abuse and you don't have to take it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    By forgiving him you are teaching him it is ok to do. When people tolerate bad behavior it becomes both persons fault.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well, I told him "I'm tired of your immature tantrums" and he said "who are you to speak to me like this? you ever do it again and it's the last time you will hear from me" so I said Ok. He hasn't spoken to me since I posted this. (He will use the most foul, vulgar language to me, but if I even say "stop it" he will get offended and ask how I 'dare' speak to him that way. It would be funny if it wasn't so ridiculous.)

      But he's said the exact same thing before, so I know he will come back after he's done fuming and act like nothing happened at all. As usual.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        You teach him it is ok more every time you dont draw the line with him. Because its ok he will only act worse.

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          I know. I have anger problems too and if nobody stands up to me I will just act worse because i dont respect them. Many people do this but i will admit it.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            9 years ago

            When I stand up to him, he just does it more. Like it's a competition to see who breaks first. He will ignore me for weeks if I don't contact him first. Then he will act like everything is fine and nothing happened?

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            • [Old Memory]
              9 years ago

              I dont know, but dont expect anything more out of him because you wont get it.

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  • Razaa
    9 years ago

    Leave him. There are plenty of other men out there that can treat a girl right. dont settle for this loser hes got red flag written all over him.

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  • Arm0se
    9 years ago

    You waited all the way until he was your fiance to ask this? That's something you should have noticed a long time ago.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Normally I'd agree, but he didn't act this way when we first met. I guess now that he feels "safe" with me being around he treats me like crap and it's been that way for a while now.

      The thing is, nobody believes me because he is very charismatic and can talk anyone into believing him. My family thinks he's the greatest man alive. But (hate to say it) I am starting to dislike him intensely even though I care about him...

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      • Arm0se
        9 years ago

        Tell him you don't like the way he's been treating yo lately.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    One of the things that separates us from the beasts is impulse control. By the time we are 12 we should be well on our way, with temper tantrums and hissy fits being things of the past.
    I think your fella needs some serious help and I'd be quite wary of being too close to such a childish individual.
    Time for anger management classes or a quick exit if he won't go. You are one tiny step from physical abuse with this guy.

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  • WhoYouCallinPinhead
    9 years ago

    He's just a prick. Throw him away like the trash he is. No one deserves to be treated like that. There's plenty of other guys out there. Alot of them being much better than him.

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  • Aliceee93
    9 years ago

    Bi polar?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Sounds mentally ill.

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