Is it normal my fiance sent a pic of herself trying on clothes to another guy?

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My Fiance and I have been together about a year and eight months. Recently she sent a picture of herself trying on clothes to another guy. I feel bad, because I'm jealous about this, and don't know if I should be.

She talks to this guy more than any other friend of hers, and he flirts with her continously, though I'm not sure she realises. I wouldn't have a problem with it, but she slept with this guy about a week before we met, and still talks to him ALOT.

I feel terrible for checking her messages, but I'm shocked at finding this photo of her trying on jeans (although she was fully clothed), and how much he says she looks hot/flirts with her. I love her immensely, and I don't care when she talks to her other guy friends, but this gets me worried for some reason.

I've talked about it with her, and told her I was upset, but she says she didn't know she was being unacceptable, and that although it will hurt her, she'll stop talking to him altogether. I don't want her to do anything that makes her unhappy though, but she says that she'd be alot more unhappy if we broke up over something silly. I agree. Quite frankly, I'm not sure if she is sure it's unacceptable behaviour, because I've never been in a relationship for so long. I know I love her though, and that it hurts a bit to see this stuff.

Am I being unreasonable? Is she? Is it normal?

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    10 years ago | pl

    Dude. First of all * a lot, not ALOT!!!! Fucksake.

    Secondly, if this chick is still acting all cutsie with this guy that shes already had sex with after you telling her it upsets you, somethings pretty wrong. Alarm bells should be ringing dude, she's already fucked this guy, so she's obviously physically attracted to him and they have history together.

    Thirdly, engaged after 1 year and 8 months and shit like this is already happening? Dude. Come. You're going to spend the REST OF YOU LIFE with this chick and she's already showing her true colours. This spells trouble for the future and you know it dude. Best advice - call of the wedding and break up. If you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you deserve someone who isn't going to make you feel like shit like this.

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    • squeallikeasacofpigs
      10 years ago

      The amount of spelling mistakes in my own post is TOO DAMN HIGH!!!

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    • philosephorSteve
      10 years ago

      amen to that brutha

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    • RomeoDeMontague
      10 years ago

      This!

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    Normal. They flirt, he hits on her and I doubt she is too dumb to see it. She's obviously enjoying the attention she's getting from him. Most men I know would be uncomfortable with their lovers having this sort of a relationship with another man, period, let alone sending them pictures which were probably intended to draw compliments

    Do you fawn over her and flirt with her still? Not to justify her behavior but she may be dissatisfied with the amount of attention you pay her.

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    • getouttadodge
      10 years ago

      WOW. I have just one word for what you wrote: NICE. That was excellent analysis and I bet if he really is having the problem he asked, that your advice will work like magic. I know this ain'ta my question, but I still wanna say thanks. That would be for answering it clearly, succinctly, and with not a whole lot of linfering questions! Good job sir!

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      • robbieforgotpw
        10 years ago

        Brown noser

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        • getouttadodge
          10 years ago

          Does that mean you are now smelling my shit?

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          • robbieforgotpw
            10 years ago

            No you have the brown nose not me. Here I have something for you...
            **pppffbbrrrtttttttttt** Enjoy!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    That's a bad sign. I hate women like this. Hanging out with their past Fuck buddies and shit and playing it off as just being good friends. She would already be buried in a shallow grave somewhere...

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    • davesumba
      10 years ago

      This ^ My ex was the same way, still talking to her exes, hanging out watching movies together and shit, and she assured me she didn't have feelings for them anymore. And I wanted her to completely stop talking to her exes cause I knew what could happen, but she gave me the same BULLSHIT sob story. Only to find out later that while on summer/winter breaks apart from each other that she cheated on me with both of her exes, and on that movie night when she specifically said nothing was going to happen.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        I stay away from girls like that. I made this same mistake only one time. I'll never make again. Neither will she....just kidding...

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    10 years ago

    Okay the fact that they slept together is the sketchy part. If she agreed not to talk to him and she is true to this I don't see a problem, you aren't being irrational.

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  • Avant-Garde
    10 years ago

    The only way I could see this situation as being normal was if he were a gay fashion expert. Other than that some things in this post sound suspicious. I think you should trust your gut. If it sounds weird and she won't stop behaving with him in such a way then you should consider breaking up.

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  • watermelonninja
    10 years ago

    Ok. you can't be that stupid! He's her back up plan! Don't merry her. She's going to end up sleeping with him again!

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    RUN!!!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Maybe that guy was a gay bff?

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    • Darkoil
      10 years ago | pl

      But they did the hibbidy dibbidy a week before she got with the op.

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      • getouttadodge
        10 years ago

        Hibbidy dibbity lol... I like that! Is that like the Hula hoop holla? or the Dumpetty Doo Did him in the Doochy? The Beer Brain Brizzled Fizzle or the Bunnyhop Bazooka???

        Personally I prefer the Use a Condom on my Momdom! lol

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        • Darkoil
          10 years ago

          I didn't understand any of that.

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    • watermelonninja
      10 years ago

      he slept with her dumb dumb!

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  • queenofnthing
    10 years ago

    If she doesn't realize it's disrespectful on her own, she has serious problems. I hate when people say someone is jealous just because the other person is disrespectful! You have a total right to be upset.

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  • fullhouse
    10 years ago

    Ah reminds me of my ex. Dude break away. I know it's not so simple but my experiance taught me that I wasted 3.5 yrs bearing this shit. She say's she'll break ties with guy? puhleez she's guilt-trapping you. She enjoy's the attention.
    Not a very good situation to be. I am sure you must be goin' crazy when she's tallking to him. You Don't need this crap at all

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    • davesumba
      10 years ago

      Glad i'm not the only one. Girls are manipulative bitches.

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      • chunsangel
        10 years ago

        Yahh!~~ not all girls are like that! ><

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    She's going to cheat on you dude. Run, run far away and get out while you still can.

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  • philosephorSteve
    10 years ago

    get rid of the sluu

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Was she helping a guy try on clothes or was she trying on clothes in front of another guy???

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  • pastaplease
    10 years ago

    maybe if you had more fashion sense.

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  • Grapist
    10 years ago

    Lol u jelly

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Hypothetically speaking you could easily frame her Fuck buddy with little time and effort.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    Is it really necessary to stop talking to him? Can't she just cease the inappropriate behavior?

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  • moomus
    10 years ago

    Follow your instincts. You say it bothers you, so take notice of the warning.

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  • getouttadodge
    10 years ago

    ssdd poop weasel. You read a good book like that and still you spew such nonsense????? huh go figger.

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