Is it normal my female classmate seems obsessed with me?

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This girl at school is constantly staring at me. Like constantly. If my phone rings in class, her head flys up to see whats going on with me, if I'm asking a question in class or talking to someone she immediatly starts laughing when nothing happened, sometimes for no reason at all she just starts laughing and staring at me. She always has to interrupt if im talking. i've tried to be friends with her and when I talk to her she straight ignores me like she's deaf. What are you suppose to do with a person like that??? I think she knows I try to stay away from her so then she gets like really close to me literally. Her energy seriously makes me sick to my stomach and when I leave school I feel depressed. When she gets that close to me and she's hovering over my shoulder to see what Im working on it seriously makes me want to turn around and punch her in her face. When she's not there I have a good day. I've tried to embarrass her in class so she'll stop focusing on me by asking her in front of everyone "why are you always staring at me?" and she's like "Nooooooooo" (w/a really nice tone) like it's just in your head or you're mistaken. I'm so tired of her that I dread going to school. She has to watch every facial expression I make. Like she is studying me and writing a book. SHE is SO annoying!!! Another guy in my class said he notices it too and that she acts that way because she needs a boyfriend and needs a lot of attention so that is why she has to interrupt me everytime I talk. She's off the charts crazy! She's 30 years old. She is like an emotional vampire and I hate being around her. What can I do/say to protect myself from her. And I still don't get why she would focus so much on me. What the hell did I do?? I have a year and a half left with her in school. It's really pretty sad because we could be hanging out but its more important for her to act that way. Why would anyone want to waist that much energy on someone else?? I AM OPEN TO ANY SUGGESTIONS.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    10 years ago

    Completely ignore her. Don't talk to her or about her, if she stares at you don't even look up. She may take it as a challenge for her to win your attention at first, but if you're consistent and do it for long enough she will hopefully get bored with you.
    Good luck.

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    • RawrImaDragon
      10 years ago

      Exactly, just don't acknowledge her. Until I found out she was 30 I just thought she was a hormonal teenager...but she's just an obsessively clingy adult.

      Don't touch her, you'll catch crazy.

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    • 2naive
      10 years ago

      I tried your advise. WOW!!! She noticed like instantly that I changed and Im not paying any attention to her. It seems to really be bothering her. But I think she will get tired. I'm going to keep ignoring her!! THANKS for the advice!!!! :)

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    ...She's 30 years old?

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    • andiforoncedonthatehumans
      10 years ago

      Yeah i wtfed there too.How is that possible?

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      • MidnightKitten
        10 years ago

        Probably college. I call it school sometimes also.

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      • Holzman67
        10 years ago

        yeah cos normally the term "girl" is applied to someone under 21 years of age.

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    • 2naive
      10 years ago

      yep!

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      • LivyMal
        10 years ago

        How old are you

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    She wants the D

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  • CheyChey
    10 years ago

    ignore her completely the more you pay attention to her noticing you and her knowing you're noticing her noticing you the worse she'll get. It's like knowing she's tormenting is her fuel to keep doing it, take a chilled approach and do not even acknowledge her whatsoever she'll get bored and will probably stop. 30 years and she does silly things like this, pathetic.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I had something similar happen in my previous college course. Constantly staring, constantly trying to be near you when you are trying to be away from her, and so on. It does get very irritating.

    Best thing to do is to get involved with another woman, perhaps? Maybe show you are off limits, or just lie about having one.

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  • filiasan
    10 years ago

    Just ignore her, and maybe she'll get the hint.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Is she attractive at least?

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    • 2naive
      10 years ago

      yes she is attractive! She has really pretty long hair. I'm like a foot and half taller than her but she's really not that short, I'm just tall.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Why don't you just do the deed and get it over with?

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      • 2naive
        10 years ago

        well I guess she is kind of short. I'm 5'7"

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    To much code cannot translate.

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  • myownopinions
    10 years ago

    The way I see it, you have three options.

    1) Like some people have already suggested, ignore her completely. This may seem easy, but it can be really hard if this person turns out to be persistent. Hopefully though, she will eventually lose interest in you.

    2) Psychologically attack her. I'm talking about taking your attempt to embarrass her and go even farther. Invade her personal space and accuse her of having certain issues while in public. Do something to make her feel ashamed of what she's doing. This isn't really recommended, but if you can do something to really humiliate her then I'm pretty sure that she will back off.

    3) Also not recommended, but you can always just get violent. Even if she fights back, she surely won't be doing this kind of act anymore. (Though you risk a suspension or worse.)

    Anyways, I'd mostly just go with option one, and though I typed out three options, there is always plenty different routes that you could take (i.e. tell a teacher or her parents or threaten a restraining order).

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  • BloodRedAndTrue
    10 years ago

    are you in college. and approach her and be like, "so whats going on?"

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    How about a different tack? When she's hanging around in a group, try putting your arm around her shoulder and bring her close to you and ask her if she wants to hang out? Perhaps that will scare her off; if not then maybe you'll have some time with her to find out what's up.

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  • Twickers
    10 years ago

    I don't have any answers for you...other then she's a bit more then a bit strange.... but your phone rings in the middle of class? I think my professors would have had me skinned alive if that had ever happened...

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  • Voray
    10 years ago

    Tl;dr.

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